Will it really matter that my kids don't have the same dads?
So kind of a spin off of the "tacky" post, people saying women with more than 2 "baby daddies" (I kind of hate that term) are "tacky". I have two kids right now, My oldest from when I was married and my 1 year old from a recently ended year and a half relationship (yes I was pregnant before we started officially dating) Neither of my kids were planned, I was pregnant with my first before I got married, but then we were married before she was born, we divorced because he was a douche and I rushed into the marriage.
My recently ended relationship, we had been "seeing" each other for about a year and a half on and off and then I got pregnant, we started dating when I was a few months pregnant and had been together up until a few weeks ago when he dumped me saying he had no feelings for me...Anyway...
So I keep thinking about the future, how much it sucks that i wanted another baby (preferably a boy) and we had talked about another kid, so many future plans etc and I thought I found the one, but obviously he didn't feel the same way. I honestly don't know what happend because I don't believe he never had feelings for me, not with the way he used to be with me. So I pretty much had decided I am done dating, done with sex etc. I wanted a 3rd child but I didn't want to have yet another kid with a different father than my other 2.
I still am not looking to date any time soon, I'm still very upset over our break up but trying to make myself feel better. I am now on the Nexplanon implant for BC so no more oops babies (i seriously was dumb before). But if some day I decide I do want to date again and find someone to marry, how awful is it to have a 3rd child by a different man? I still have hopes that me and my recent ex will get back together, but if we don't then I hate to think I will never have another child.
I mean I hate that my kids right now have different dads, I hate having different last names (I went back to my maiden name after my divorce so both my kids have different last names than me) but in the long run of things, as long as the kids are happy, taken care of, etc, it shouldn't matter if I had a third somewhere down the road right? I mean my ex husband hasn't seen our daughter in nearly 5 months now, he's talked to her maybe 2 or 3 times this whole time and I hope some day he'll sign over his rights so if I do get married some day my dh could adopt her, but my second child, my recent ex will always be a great father and be in her life (which is good). My recent ex also has taken on my oldest as his own (I seriously thought one day we'd marry and he'd adopt her...)
Do you look down on women who have 3 different fathers for their kids? Not that I really care that much what CMers think, and it won't change any decisions I make, I'm just curious...