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Groceries, home life and just full out FRUSTRATION

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I am sure we have all been there, money is tight, kids are going absolutely insane, house is tore up and you can only handle so much. Yes, this is the point I am at right now. I am so frustrated because it's 2 weeks til payday and there isn't enough groceries in the house, I have enough for the kids and that is what is important but damn i'm actually pretty hungry. I have lived off coffee now for like a week straight, my kids are fed this makes me happy.

I am frustrated because there is a family reunion of sorts tonight, I don't have a car and my cousin is set to pick me up. Problem, I have no money and where as my parents offered to pay for me I can't in good conscience make them pay, for one they are in about the same shape that I am and two I have a lot of stubborn pride. Though it will be nice to go and get a break from the stress around this house and enjoy a couple hours kid free.

I am at my wits end with everything, I don't know whether I am coming or going and the depression just keeps getting deeper and darker. I have no support system, only thing that keeps me hanging on is my children. Even with their arguing they are still precious to me and I couldn't leave them in a messed up situation.

I honestly for once in my life have no idea what to do. I am usually the one who keeps it together, I figure everything out, I get stuff done and everything usually works fine, not this time around though. I don't know how much more I can possibly handle, I am being looked at to solve the problems of the house. I am trying to be strong for everyone that is here and yet I feel like pulling my hair out and screaming and just giving up.

So, that is my rant for the day, sorry if it seems whiny I am just frustrated and have no one to vent to. And please don't bash on me because really I have already bashed on myself enough for all of you women combined. Thanks for listening.


UPDATE: Thank you ladies for all of your kind words and support. Honestly, when I started this rant I dont' know what I was expecting. I have read your comments and will be taking your suggestions into serious consideration. I am tearing up over here with the support you have all shown. Thank you again.


UPDATE #2: Once again, I thank all of you ladies who were encouraging, I did infact actually go out and spend time with my family. It also helped me reflect on some changes that I need to make in my life to ensure that everything is taken care of. You have all helped inspire me and lifted my spirits I truly appreciate all of you who had kind words and advice to share!

Posted by Anonymous on May. 26, 2013 at 7:03 PM
Replies (21-30):
thefiregoddess
by Ruby Member on May. 26, 2013 at 7:31 PM
Are you in the US? And honestly. Have you ever considered coupons?
Its not a save all but you could at least save enough to feed yourself.
. Honey. . Hugs. I was homeless and lived in my car, in the south in the summer for a while.
It sucked.

There is always an up.. and soon it will come.
Anonymous
by Anonymous on May. 26, 2013 at 7:31 PM
How many kids do you have, sorry about your situation :(
littlesippycup
by Ruby Member on May. 26, 2013 at 7:32 PM

BUMP!

Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on May. 26, 2013 at 7:32 PM

Thank you. You have renewed my faith in humanity, I was expecting people to bash me about what a worthless human I am, it is refreshing to know there are people out there that still genuinely care. I truly mean it, thank you.

Quoting littlesippycup:

=( Wish you were closer, or I was, I have meat and veggies I would give you. I told my family, DH and teen DS about your tough time, I hope that doesn't offend you. We know what it's like to have to ration and I've gone to bed hungry more than once, but DS doesn't know that. Hugs and prayers and well wishes for you and yours from all of us. 

Quoting Anonymous:

Thank you. I think we all need someone we can lean on every once in awhile. I am in Washington state, so it's a bit far, but it is really appreciated to just have someone to talk to.

Quoting littlesippycup:

PM me if you want, I'll be strong for you. I'm an hour north of Austin Texas. I have extra food, cleaning supplies, stuff like that.

Quoting Anonymous:

Thank you. I am hoping it does start looking up because I have no idea how much more I can handle. I am tired of being strong for everyone around me and have no one to be strong for me. :(

Quoting littlesippycup:

Oh sweetie, big warm hugs, I know that feeling. It's awful =( Please go tonight and get a break and something to eat. Have a good time and maybe things will look up or maybe somebody knows some way to help you and your babies. It's family, I hope they would help you. 

Quoting Anonymous:

It's not uncommon for me to go without for my kids. I guess it's just all catching up. There is so much more stress now and really when they are asking for stuff and I can't give it to them, I truly feel like the worst mother.

Quoting littlesippycup:

I am so sorry =( I would be really hurt if my child was hungry and didn't let me cover their meal. You need to go and just tell your mom and dad thank you. You know how much you love your kids, you're going without food so they can eat....your parents feel the exact same way. I hope something works out for you soon =( 








pce68
by Patti on May. 26, 2013 at 7:32 PM

I know how that is. I do without all the time so my dd can eat. I buy her clothes and things she needs and then never buy anything for myself. Right now I don't have money for rent, or bills either. And my dd needs things and wants things and I have to say no, and I feel like an awful mother too.

Quoting Anonymous:

It's not uncommon for me to go without for my kids. I guess it's just all catching up. There is so much more stress now and really when they are asking for stuff and I can't give it to them, I truly feel like the worst mother.

Quoting littlesippycup:

I am so sorry =( I would be really hurt if my child was hungry and didn't let me cover their meal. You need to go and just tell your mom and dad thank you. You know how much you love your kids, you're going without food so they can eat....your parents feel the exact same way. I hope something works out for you soon =( 



Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on May. 26, 2013 at 7:32 PM

I have 4 kids. 14, 9 7 and 5

Quoting Anonymous:

How many kids do you have, sorry about your situation :(


Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on May. 26, 2013 at 7:34 PM

Yes, Washington state. Someone else suggested coupons, I am going to look through the coupons and see what kind of deals I can find in there, maybe hopefully be able to save enough on other stuff as well that I am not struggling as bad.

Quoting thefiregoddess:

Are you in the US? And honestly. Have you ever considered coupons?
Its not a save all but you could at least save enough to feed yourself.
. Honey. . Hugs. I was homeless and lived in my car, in the south in the summer for a while.
It sucked.

There is always an up.. and soon it will come.


Anonymous
by Anonymous on May. 26, 2013 at 7:34 PM
Wow that's a lot of mouths to feed. Has money always been this tight? Or is this something recent?


Quoting Anonymous:

I have 4 kids. 14, 9 7 and 5

Quoting Anonymous:

How many kids do you have, sorry about your situation :(



Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on May. 26, 2013 at 7:35 PM

:( It's hard to tell the kids no, and try to explain to them why you are saying no.

Quoting pce68:

I know how that is. I do without all the time so my dd can eat. I buy her clothes and things she needs and then never buy anything for myself. Right now I don't have money for rent, or bills either. And my dd needs things and wants things and I have to say no, and I feel like an awful mother too.

Quoting Anonymous:

It's not uncommon for me to go without for my kids. I guess it's just all catching up. There is so much more stress now and really when they are asking for stuff and I can't give it to them, I truly feel like the worst mother.

Quoting littlesippycup:

I am so sorry =( I would be really hurt if my child was hungry and didn't let me cover their meal. You need to go and just tell your mom and dad thank you. You know how much you love your kids, you're going without food so they can eat....your parents feel the exact same way. I hope something works out for you soon =( 




Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on May. 26, 2013 at 7:36 PM

It's been this tight for awhile now. I just don't remember it ever being this bad, I have no idea what changed or what happened.

Quoting Anonymous:

Wow that's a lot of mouths to feed. Has money always been this tight? Or is this something recent?


Quoting Anonymous:

I have 4 kids. 14, 9 7 and 5

Quoting Anonymous:

How many kids do you have, sorry about your situation :(




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