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Groceries, home life and just full out FRUSTRATION

Posted by Anonymous   + Show Post

I am sure we have all been there, money is tight, kids are going absolutely insane, house is tore up and you can only handle so much. Yes, this is the point I am at right now. I am so frustrated because it's 2 weeks til payday and there isn't enough groceries in the house, I have enough for the kids and that is what is important but damn i'm actually pretty hungry. I have lived off coffee now for like a week straight, my kids are fed this makes me happy.

I am frustrated because there is a family reunion of sorts tonight, I don't have a car and my cousin is set to pick me up. Problem, I have no money and where as my parents offered to pay for me I can't in good conscience make them pay, for one they are in about the same shape that I am and two I have a lot of stubborn pride. Though it will be nice to go and get a break from the stress around this house and enjoy a couple hours kid free.

I am at my wits end with everything, I don't know whether I am coming or going and the depression just keeps getting deeper and darker. I have no support system, only thing that keeps me hanging on is my children. Even with their arguing they are still precious to me and I couldn't leave them in a messed up situation.

I honestly for once in my life have no idea what to do. I am usually the one who keeps it together, I figure everything out, I get stuff done and everything usually works fine, not this time around though. I don't know how much more I can possibly handle, I am being looked at to solve the problems of the house. I am trying to be strong for everyone that is here and yet I feel like pulling my hair out and screaming and just giving up.

So, that is my rant for the day, sorry if it seems whiny I am just frustrated and have no one to vent to. And please don't bash on me because really I have already bashed on myself enough for all of you women combined. Thanks for listening.


UPDATE: Thank you ladies for all of your kind words and support. Honestly, when I started this rant I dont' know what I was expecting. I have read your comments and will be taking your suggestions into serious consideration. I am tearing up over here with the support you have all shown. Thank you again.


UPDATE #2: Once again, I thank all of you ladies who were encouraging, I did infact actually go out and spend time with my family. It also helped me reflect on some changes that I need to make in my life to ensure that everything is taken care of. You have all helped inspire me and lifted my spirits I truly appreciate all of you who had kind words and advice to share!

Posted by Anonymous on May. 26, 2013 at 7:03 PM
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katherinemcp
by Silver Member on May. 26, 2013 at 7:51 PM
1 mom liked this
((Hugs))

Edit-oops! I meant just to reply to the post, haha


Quoting wooly:

 have you tried to go to a Food bank and see if you can get some staples to last you till pay day. But you mentioned a cousin and your parents, isn't that a support system of sorts?



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Anonymous
by Anonymous 4 on May. 26, 2013 at 7:51 PM

That is tough. Coupons and make from scratch....those two will help tremendously.


Quoting Anonymous:

I have had some stuff, peanutbutter and jelly here and there but the bread goes rather quickly. 4 kids total and about 500 in stamps. Which would normally be more than enough to supplement what I already do. Problem is, unexpected medical bills, unexpected in bills in general and my daughter's father calling in constantly only getting paid once a month in his job has made it hell.

Quoting Anonymous:

Almost three weeks with no food? How many children and how much in stamps?




MoPain
by Bronze Member on May. 26, 2013 at 7:52 PM

I'm sorry you are having such a hard time. I love Winco I'm in Washington state as well if you need someone to talk to I'm am also in school and don't have a lot of support. PM anytime

Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on May. 26, 2013 at 7:52 PM

My ex, who lives with me is the main contributor to my problem. He only gets paid once a month but has been calling in, his last paycheck suffered by about 200 dollars because he just didn't feel like going in. He's done the same this month as well, called in at least 3 times so far, and when you only get paid once a month that really makes stuff tough. I really need to just finish school so I can be done with him and this situation :(

Quoting Nolanzo:

I have been where you are. Keep your chin up mama. It gets better.

DH has to fight with his coworkers about who gets to go out on the truck each day... whoever doesn't make it gets sent home early so he's literally fighting for hours every week and his paychecks suffer greatly. We have $15 till Friday and no bus $ for him to get to work, we don't have a car either.

Can you google food banks? I know they have helped us when we were down to a can of chick peas and no can opener. Seriously.

*hugs*


Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on May. 26, 2013 at 7:54 PM

I am going to start doing that with bread. Found a few recipes, have been skimming over some stuff on the internet, bread doesn't look hard to make and it looks kind of fun, can take my aggression and frustration out on the dough! I was also wondering if it's cheaper to grow my own veggies but that would take awhile I imagine :(

Quoting Anonymous:

That is tough. Coupons and make from scratch....those two will help tremendously.


Quoting Anonymous:

I have had some stuff, peanutbutter and jelly here and there but the bread goes rather quickly. 4 kids total and about 500 in stamps. Which would normally be more than enough to supplement what I already do. Problem is, unexpected medical bills, unexpected in bills in general and my daughter's father calling in constantly only getting paid once a month in his job has made it hell.

Quoting Anonymous:

Almost three weeks with no food? How many children and how much in stamps?





katherinemcp
by Silver Member on May. 26, 2013 at 7:54 PM
1 mom liked this
Hugs, mama. I hope things start to get better for you soon.
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wooly
by Knitting Maniac on May. 26, 2013 at 7:54 PM

 I cook from scratch so I know from personal experience that cooking from scratch is cheaper, but not to get started. I have all the spices and staples I need to make just about anything, but when you're used to buying everything in a box you just don't have those things. 

Quoting Anonymous:

That is tough. Coupons and make from scratch....those two will help tremendously.

 

Quoting Anonymous:

I have had some stuff, peanutbutter and jelly here and there but the bread goes rather quickly. 4 kids total and about 500 in stamps. Which would normally be more than enough to supplement what I already do. Problem is, unexpected medical bills, unexpected in bills in general and my daughter's father calling in constantly only getting paid once a month in his job has made it hell.

Quoting Anonymous:

Almost three weeks with no food? How many children and how much in stamps?

 

 

 

 

Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on May. 26, 2013 at 7:54 PM

Winco is an amazing store. What part of WA are you in? What are you in school for?

Quoting MoPain:

I'm sorry you are having such a hard time. I love Winco I'm in Washington state as well if you need someone to talk to I'm am also in school and don't have a lot of support. PM anytime


imamombygrace
by Silver Member on May. 26, 2013 at 7:55 PM
I am so sorry, Mama. May I keep you in my prayers? I really hope all works out. Op, you really do sound like a wonderful Mom.
Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on May. 26, 2013 at 7:56 PM

Oh I have a lot of different spices. I also had at one point the basic stuff to make bread from scratch and a few other things. When I cook it's not from boxes. Althoguh I am thinking if I had more boxed stuff I wouldn't be in this situation. :(

Quoting wooly:

 I cook from scratch so I know from personal experience that cooking from scratch is cheaper, but not to get started. I have all the spices and staples I need to make just about anything, but when you're used to buying everything in a box you just don't have those things. 

Quoting Anonymous:

That is tough. Coupons and make from scratch....those two will help tremendously.


Quoting Anonymous:

I have had some stuff, peanutbutter and jelly here and there but the bread goes rather quickly. 4 kids total and about 500 in stamps. Which would normally be more than enough to supplement what I already do. Problem is, unexpected medical bills, unexpected in bills in general and my daughter's father calling in constantly only getting paid once a month in his job has made it hell.

Quoting Anonymous:

Almost three weeks with no food? How many children and how much in stamps?




 


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