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How do you feel when SO watches porn and masturbates? *EDIT!!!*

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Okay maybe its what hes watching. He's watching daddy - daughter stuff. We're expecting w/ our first too. Does that change anything at all? :/

DH watches porn behind my back a lot. It's not like he's sex deprived! I give it to him whenever he wants it. Just about everyday. Sometimes several times a day. (sorry tmi!) He says i'm really tight and theres nothing wrong with me personally (tmi again sorry!!!) But he still just loves to jack off to porn... How do you girls feel when or if your SO does this? I'm not talking about masturbating in general...I mean the whole porn thing. I've expressed deeply how it hurts me and makes me feel. But it's not enough for him to stop. :-/ It's making me drift away from him. How do you girls feel about this?



You ladies really dont feel awkward when DH looks at another girl to get off? I guess I find it rude and when youre married youre supposed to faithful.

And for you girls that are getting snippy with me...I was just asking. I believe in morals.

Posted by Anonymous on May. 26, 2013 at 7:52 PM
Replies (51-60):
by on May. 26, 2013 at 8:19 PM
That's a little excessive. I would be hurt too.
Tell him you want to get him help. Tell him it is making your relationship suffer.
by Anonymous 19 on May. 26, 2013 at 8:20 PM
Lmao. This is me. Dh only does his thing while I'm sleeping. And sometimes I'm just tired and ready for nigh night. thank god for those dirty girls. Lol

Quoting illinoismommy83:

I feel rested when he does it... because it means he is letting me sleep! Thank goodness for those porn chicks. I love sleeping and the last thing I need after a long day is a horny husband who forgot where his hand is.

by on May. 26, 2013 at 8:20 PM

I don't feel anything. He works away and does it there. When he is home he takes the real deal every time.

by Silver Member on May. 26, 2013 at 8:21 PM
Its cheating in our marriage because dh became addicted and almost destroyed our relationship. He promised to stop several times but kept going behind my back until I gave him my wedding bands back and told him to choose. He realized how bad it was and how much pain he caused and stopped and has been working on our marriage ever since. His addiction involved not being able to get and maintain an erection with me unless he was watching porn. It was very frustrating and hurtful to us both and he hated himself for letting it get that bad. Since we've completely cut out porn and masturbating our sex life and marriage in general has become more intimate and fulfilling to us both. I firmly believe if something hurts your spouse you should stop doing it no matter how minor it may seem to you. Your spouse and their feelings should always come first.
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by Anonymous 20 on May. 26, 2013 at 8:21 PM
Turns me on. The most I wonder is what kind of porn he really likes ;)
by Anonymous 21 on May. 26, 2013 at 8:22 PM
I don't care because I do it more than him.
by Anonymous 19 on May. 26, 2013 at 8:24 PM
Sometimes it turns me in too. I will ask him about it as for play. I dunno weird

Quoting Lalalie:

It turns me on.

by Anonymous 19 on May. 26, 2013 at 8:25 PM
by Anonymous 22 on May. 26, 2013 at 8:28 PM

Thankfully don't have to deal with this. DH hates the concept of porn and masturbation. Not sure why I think its weird but whatever. I do both myself watch porn and masturbate he doesn't have an issue with me doing it he just doesn't like it for himself.

I know a lot of women who are bothered by it though a few that watch it with their DH's though. 

by Anonymous 23 on May. 26, 2013 at 8:30 PM

Masterbating is fine... He can do that all he wants

Porn is a not.. It is something he understood before we had kids together that I think its something we should do together...

Its different than alot of other relationships & thats OK... Im not in their relationship & they are not in mine. :) If porn was something he felt a need to have, he should have stopped dating me in the beginning when we first talked about it. We have been together for over 10yrs.

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