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How do you feel when SO watches porn and masturbates? *EDIT!!!*

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Okay maybe its what hes watching. He's watching daddy - daughter stuff. We're expecting w/ our first too. Does that change anything at all? :/

DH watches porn behind my back a lot. It's not like he's sex deprived! I give it to him whenever he wants it. Just about everyday. Sometimes several times a day. (sorry tmi!) He says i'm really tight and theres nothing wrong with me personally (tmi again sorry!!!) But he still just loves to jack off to porn... How do you girls feel when or if your SO does this? I'm not talking about masturbating in general...I mean the whole porn thing. I've expressed deeply how it hurts me and makes me feel. But it's not enough for him to stop. :-/ It's making me drift away from him. How do you girls feel about this?

 

EDIT:

You ladies really dont feel awkward when DH looks at another girl to get off? I guess I find it rude and when youre married youre supposed to faithful.

And for you girls that are getting snippy with me...I was just asking. I believe in morals.

Posted by Anonymous on May. 26, 2013 at 7:52 PM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 30 on May. 26, 2013 at 10:54 PM
I would care a lot less if he didn't prefer it to me.
We haven't had sex in over a month, but he "takes care of himself" frequently.
He also doesn't look at porn porn. He looks at actual pictures of attractive young women. I think it hurts more than porn.
I feel so repulsive.
:(
AussieReg
by on May. 26, 2013 at 10:56 PM

Yes I was radically upset when my DH was watching alot of porn and not having sex with me, he did it not once but twice (where he was basically addicted to porn) and the second series I finally freaked out and told him that it was adversely affecting our relationship and that it was pretty revolting because the girls he was looking at were the same age as out teen daughters and I think that kind of made him realize. Later he apologized after a serious event in our lives and I think it gave him a new perspective on our relationship and his behaviour and I am pretty sure he doesn't do it anymore but I no longer use his computer so I don't know. For the women who ae OK with it good but porn addiction is real and it is usually damaging to a marriage/relationship.

couture-mommy
by She.Me.Her on May. 26, 2013 at 10:58 PM
Shit... I encourage it. Lol
gilbertgrl627
by Gold Member on May. 26, 2013 at 10:59 PM
Don't really care, or know for that matter. He doesn't watch it unless we're watching it together. He doesn't have a very high sex drive anyway. lol.
grambo91
by Gold Member on May. 26, 2013 at 11:02 PM
Heyyyy! I'm not a prude, just old fashioned (:


Quoting inspain:

What do morals have to do with it?  

He likes to look at pictures and get off.  What's the big deal?  Trust me, he's not admiring her personality or even her.  He's just getting off on the fantasy.  How is that unfaithful?  I can only imagine that being such an uptight prude makes dealing with human nature and just being happy a real pain in the ass.


AussieReg
by on May. 26, 2013 at 11:02 PM
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She is not an Uptight prude and calling porn a natural thing/human nature is downright BULLSHIT. If you are OK with it that is your thing but this woman feels lessened in the relationship because of her husbands addiction, don't discount that as prudish becasue she is not denying her husband sex, she is doing it ALOT
.

Quoting inspain:

What do morals have to do with it?  

He likes to look at pictures and get off.  What's the big deal?  Trust me, he's not admiring her personality or even her.  He's just getting off on the fantasy.  How is that unfaithful?  I can only imagine that being such an uptight prude makes dealing with human nature and just being happy a real pain in the ass.


 

RhiannonMare
by on May. 26, 2013 at 11:04 PM

Doesn't bother me a bit. DH knows that I read porn and masturbate. We watch, read and write porn together.

Lovebugbaby
by Silver Member on May. 26, 2013 at 11:06 PM
I LOVE when he does it because then he doesn't bother me for sex.

But back in the day when I cared more it bothered me a lot. I felt like if he wanted sex all he had to do was roll over and I was there. It was hurtful but he explained it as he had random fantasies that he knew I wouldn't fulfill (anal, threesomes) so he'd watch them to get it out his system. But idk
grambo91
by Gold Member on May. 26, 2013 at 11:07 PM
I agree. I call it classy not prudish. My husband isn't a pig or a teenage boy and I don't take "he's a guy" as an excuse to act like he is. Out of respect for me and for himself, he doesn't do it. I'm no prude. Just old fashioned. And I want my husband 100% to myself. (: lol


Quoting AussieReg:

 


She is not an Uptight prude and calling porn a natural thing/human nature is downright BULLSHIT. If you are OK with it that is your thing but this woman feels lessened in the relationship because of her husbands addiction, don't discount that as prudish becasue she is not denying her husband sex, she is doing it ALOT
.


Quoting inspain:


What do morals have to do with it?  


He likes to look at pictures and get off.  What's the big deal?  Trust me, he's not admiring her personality or even her.  He's just getting off on the fantasy.  How is that unfaithful?  I can only imagine that being such an uptight prude makes dealing with human nature and just being happy a real pain in the ass.




 


DamianaFire
by Silver Member on May. 26, 2013 at 11:20 PM
As long as I'm getting mine, he isn't waking me up and it's nothing I have to clean then I really dont care.
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