many years ago
she, a family member, knew we, SO and I, were talking and she does this weird slutty thing to where if she knows someone is getting attention she will try to take the attention that person is getting
So she and my SO had sex when we were in the getting to know each other stage. I too had a fuck buddy at that time but we were getting to know each other.
When I found out they had sex, and she was the one who told me
"I had sex with !@#!@#, so, I don't want you to hook up with him because I already did"
I was just thinking, like, did she do this on purpose because she knew we were still both single but were growing closer emotionally
Needless to say, I was hurt, like WHY would you do that, to both of them
So I asked him flat out, he said "It meant nothing, she was acting like a hoe so I treated her like one."
That was not a good answer to me so I let him go
distanced myself for a couple years
within that time period I didn't really trust this family member any more and I didn't want him to bother me, which he did, almost every other day, sometimes a week would go by, and he would jus keep on keeping on.
Eventually I responded to him, I mean he texted me, called me, fb messaged me, everything
So we met up and talked about it
I said Ijust can't trust him
He said, Well after all of this time I still think about you, I still want to get to know you, I just had sex with her, she meant nothing, I don't know what to say. We weren't together, I didn't think anything of it at the time, I was high as hell and nothing seemed to be wrong but I realize I was wrong.
I responded: One day at a time, I need time
The next week we meet up again, and then again, and then after a year of rekindling and building trust I knew he was it, I knew.
I cut off that family member because she thought it was wrong of me and kept being dramatic about it. My mom and my sister were like "if you weren't such a sleezy hoe you wouldn't have these issues, don't come to us complaining." And so she stopped running her mouth.
We are getting married this summer