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Re-editing: Thank you wonderful ladies for your help.

Anonymous
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I finally feel some calm after reading the majority of your responses. Thank you, thank you, thank you!

I knew there were good women in this group!

my son is 6.

I have been a single mother since he was born. I've taken responsibility for him and worked. (I will not get into why I was a single mother)

Since the day he was born I could tell he was a different child. He never cried, he never made a peep his first year of life. I had to wake him up to feed him, bathe him and change his diaper. He was always sleeping. He had regular checkups and was never sick. I was a sahm mother his 1st year but his dad was absent all throughout...

I was 19 but worked my ass off to get him to progress as he should as he kept getting older. Teaching to crawl, didnt happen till be was 13 months. He didnt walk till he was 2. He never said any words (just babbles) until he was 3. He did well at first learning English and Spanish. He was speaking really well and then I started working... I had to drive 2 hours total and worked a 9 hour shift... Easy to say my mother did the majority of his upbringing when he was 3. I'd come home and he'dbe up watching spongebob and eating chicken nuggets (every time) sometimes he'd eat other foods but I mostly saw chicken nuggets.

Of course I told her not to... She did it anyways... All of a sudden my son wasn't speaking well and his A.B.C's were no longer a part of his vocabulary... It was when I overheard my mom manipulating my son to call her mom and me by my first name that I realized she's doing everything possible to get me out of the picture...

I finally left wih my son and started fresh elsewhere... He was in daycare and I worked... however his daycare noticed that he had limited verbal skills and was socially inept... He'd progress and then regress. FF 3 years.

I'm married with one another child and another on the way. His pediatrician does not see a problem with my son and says "this is normal" and I'm sorry but no... My son not being able to tell me if he's hot or cold isnt normal.him not being able to make complete sentences or verbalized his pain, needs and wants is not normal... Everything is being taught from scratch.. As if he's still an infant...

Nothing gets retained... He doesn't watch tv, he eats healthy foods and I interact with him on a daily basis reteaching him the basics.... I'm lost and his IEP program isnt helping... and no one but me and my dh views this as a problem. For god sakes he doesn't know the difference between shorts and pants, long sleeve short sleeve... Doesn't remember where certain items are, even if they've been in the same place for years.

I need options... Who to talk to... What medical professions to look at... I don't want him to be labeled as anything but there has to be a reason why he is like this... How many times can you start from scratch to reteach the same information that a 3 year old already knows. I know these might not seem like big problems but for a child who has not been diagnosed with anything and still cant function on certain levels makes this really hard and and emotionally breaking...

Posted by Anonymous on May. 31, 2013 at 3:20 PM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on May. 31, 2013 at 3:26 PM

Eta: he had his 1st ear infection after he turned 1. His initial doctors didnt realize he had an ear infection because he wasn't crying at the appt... Which according to them is the #1 indicator for ear infections.... But he had a fever and was throwing up constantly but didnt cry... When I brought him to my hometown the pediatrician realized he had a double ear infection and an ear drum was about to burst...

He's had constant ear infections and doesn't tell me because the pain doesn't bother him... So I have to taken him every month to get checked... I've taken hm to a hearing specialist and found nothing wrong...

Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on May. 31, 2013 at 4:00 PM

BUMP!

Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on May. 31, 2013 at 4:04 PM

BUMP!

adhaodd1child
by on May. 31, 2013 at 4:09 PM
You need to get in touch with your local school system they can help you, then you need to find a ped that specialize in behavior and development, if you have to find a children's hospital near by that have one, then find a psychologist to do testing on him. If you want to PM your location and I will help you find some peds in your area and help with anything else I can. I have been down this road, for now find another ped and get in to have them take a look if they say its normal find another one. I have done this plenty of times with my ds til I got one to listen.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on May. 31, 2013 at 4:11 PM

adhaodd1child
by on May. 31, 2013 at 4:11 PM
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With the ear issues take him to an ENT if he is getting that many ear infections it might be time for ear tubes, my ds had the same issue and once he got his ear tubes he rarely has ear infections any more.


Also look up SPD it might explain him not feeling pain, my ds has the same issue. Message me any time if you want to talk.

BrainFarts
by on May. 31, 2013 at 4:12 PM
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Are you blaming your mother or chicken nuggets? I am confused....

A lot of time the developmental delays increase as time passes. Have him evaluated, take him to his Pedi and get a referral...

adhaodd1child
by on May. 31, 2013 at 4:12 PM
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Thats uncalled for shes looking for help with her ds.


Next time read the post and not just the title

Quoting Anonymous:


Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on May. 31, 2013 at 4:13 PM
Quoting adhaodd1child:

You need to get in touch with your local school system they can help you, then you need to find a ped that specialize in behavior and development, if you have to find a children's hospital near by that have one, then find a psychologist to do testing on him. If you want to PM your location and I will help you find some peds in your area and help with anything else I can. I have been down this road, for now find another ped and get in to have them take a look if they say its normal find another one. I have done this plenty of times with my ds til I got one to listen.



I want to cry every time someone says "it's normal"

They ask him us or no questions but he always looks at me for the answers... His school has already tested him and that although he's barely below their minimum standard, they still say its a natural development for his age and he's in IEP classes...

I'm in omaha NE.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 3 on May. 31, 2013 at 4:14 PM

Speech therapy maybe? Maybe take him to a different doctor. Maybe he is on one of the autism spectrums. 

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