That I don't care if dh is mad anymore? we just got into an arguement over me being at my moms house all day. I have a good reason though, my dad had throat surgery on monday he had a really bad infection. He is 60 years old, but looks a lot better than any 60 year old. He has never in his life been this sick, and he has not been to the doctor in a long time and by this I mean more than 20 years. He takes care of himself eats well, and rests like he is suppose to. Throat surgery went great, the thing is my dad is still weak he had not eaten for three days and because of his age I think it took a toll on his body. I also think, he has been some what traumatized by the fact that he got this sick, when this has never happened. He is now forgetting things and will not listen to my mom at all about his medicines or changing the gauze on the incision made.I am the only one he listens to, and asks for me when he needs something. I can't leave him now when he needs me, He is the only dad I have and love very much. I seriously feel like id rather lose a husband than my dad. Am I wrong? should I listen to my dh?