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We are divorcing BECAUSE of the kids- Edit

Anonymous
Posted by Anonymous
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Let me start off by saying that this is NOT something I'm proud of.

Our six year old twins fight constantly and always have. We have tried-
talking, grounding, losing toys, missing playdates, leaving special events in the middle because of fighting.
We've tried positive stuff like praise and reward charts.

The truth is that DH and I are both exhausted and tired of living in a house full of fighting. We have discussed splitting up so that each of us only has to deal with the fighting half the time and maybe we can both manage.

They started fighting when they stsrted crawling and it hasn't stopped :(

EDIT - I didn't expect so many responses.
I am so overwhelmed that I often feel like running away but. I never would. I have never had this discussion with DH but I think about it.

I won't give up on my kids either I will have to find another way. Sorry just having a really rough day and needed a little butt kicking to get out of my pity party.
Posted by Anonymous on Jun. 9, 2013 at 5:32 PM
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Pnukey
by on Jun. 9, 2013 at 5:33 PM
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Why not just live separately rather than divorce?

LucyMom08
by BS Intolerant on Jun. 9, 2013 at 5:33 PM
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 Do you really think splitting up is going to put your children in a happy, blissful state? It's more than likely going to make all of their issues worse...

 

D.O.E.
by on Jun. 9, 2013 at 5:34 PM
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You could take one and he could take one and then just rotate visitation.

Just imagine the peace & quiet
Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Jun. 9, 2013 at 5:34 PM

No advice just good luck

DannieLou
by on Jun. 9, 2013 at 5:34 PM
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I'd try anything else before divorcing. Therapy...different leisure activities...ANYTHING
Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Jun. 9, 2013 at 5:35 PM
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That's what we're thinking. We both make enough to support ourselves.
It just breaks my heart because twins are supposed to have a special bond and mine can't stand each other.
Hannahluvsdogs
by Keyser Söze on Jun. 9, 2013 at 5:36 PM

Have you tried family therapy?

purpleducky
by Ruby Member on Jun. 9, 2013 at 5:36 PM
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What have you tried? Have you tried therapy? Have you had them tested to make sure nothing else is going on?

Pnukey
by on Jun. 9, 2013 at 5:36 PM
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Quoting D.O.E.:

You could take one and he could take one and then just rotate visitation.

Just imagine the peace & quiet

Oooh, I like this better. Maybe the twins need a chance to miss each other.

birdiemom
by on Jun. 9, 2013 at 5:36 PM
I'm sorry that you feel it's come to this. Can you put them in separate activities? Wear them out, and keep them separate and something else to focus on?
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