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Mothers of handicapped (mentally or physically) children...

Posted by on Jun. 9, 2013 at 6:18 PM
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Most women become mothers by accident, some by choice, a few by social pressures and a couple by habit. This year nearly 100,000 women will become mothers of handicapped children. Did you ever wonder how mothers of handicapped children are chosen? Somehow I visualize God hovering over earth selecting his instruments for propagation with great care and deliberation. As He observes, He instructs His angels to make notes in a giant ledger. "Armstrong, Beth; son. Patron saint...give her Gerard. He’s used to profanity." "Forrest, Marjorie; daughter. Patron saint, Cecelia." "Rutledge, Carrie; twins. Patron saint, Matthew." Finally He passes a name to an angel and smiles, "Give her a handicapped child." The angel is curious. "Why this one God? She’s so happy." "Exactly," smiles God, "Could I give a handicapped child to a mother who does not know laughter? That would be cruel." "But has she patience?" asks the angel. "I don’t want her to have too much patience or she will drown in a sea of self-pity and despair. Once the shock and resentment wears off, she’ll handle it." "I watched her today. She has that feeling of self and independence that is so rare and so necessary in a mother. You see, the child I’m going to give her has her own world. She has to make her live in her world and that’s not going to be easy." "But, Lord, I don’t think she even believes in you." God smiles, "No matter, I can fix that. This one is perfect - she has just enough selfishness." The angel gasps - "selfishness? is that a virtue?" God nods. "If she can’t separate herself from the child occasionally, she’ll never survive. Yes, here is a woman whom I will bless with a child less than perfect. She doesn’t realize it yet, but she is to be envied. She will never take for granted a ’spoken word’". She will never consider a "step" ordinary. When her child says ’Momma’ for the first time, she will be present at a miracle, and will know it!" "I will permit her to see clearly the things I see...ignorance, cruelty, prejudice....and allow her to rise above them. She will never be alone. I will be at her side every minute of every day of her life, because she is doing My work as surely as if she is here by My side". "And what about her Patron saint?" asks the angel, his pen poised in mid-air. God smiles, "A mirror will suffice."

~Erma Bombeck
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mom2many747
by Momma Duck on Jun. 9, 2013 at 6:29 PM
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by Momma Duck on Jun. 9, 2013 at 6:31 PM
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by Momma Duck on Jun. 9, 2013 at 6:34 PM
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LovelyCorrupt
by Silver Member on Jun. 9, 2013 at 6:37 PM
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mom2many747
by Momma Duck on Jun. 9, 2013 at 7:11 PM
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mommaTLC186
by on Jun. 9, 2013 at 7:14 PM
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:) love it! (I have three children, two with autism)
TrouserMouse
by on Jun. 9, 2013 at 7:16 PM
I can't get past wondering if "most" women really do become mothers by accident. That is sad.
Cymbeline
by Platinum Member on Jun. 9, 2013 at 7:17 PM
That is a lovely sentiment. As the mother of a medically complex child who has multiple disabilities I find it touching.

The thought, however, of all of those parents who abuse or kill their children with disabilities snaps me back to reality. It was merely the roll of the genetic dice.
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moroccanmommy
by Silver Member on Jun. 9, 2013 at 7:19 PM
I don't think God intentionally creates hanicaped children... that would be cruel. God doesn't want children or parents to suffer.. Hanicaps is a unfortunate part of life due to genetic misfires, pesticides, drugs, so many different things..and I don't think God looks for mothers to put handicapped children on.
I understand it is very hard to be a parent of a child that needs special care. I do think a lot of mother do a great job of handling the stress. It does take a extra patient person to to handle it all
mom2many747
by Momma Duck on Jun. 9, 2013 at 7:20 PM
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I have one with autism and one with global developmental delays. I know the feeling.

Quoting mommaTLC186:

:) love it! (I have three children, two with autism)
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