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My Dd was pregnant and I didn't know until delivery

Anonymous
Posted by Anonymous
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I just don't know where we went wrong with her.

She had a baby when she was 18 and moved to Va with her boyfriend(we live in Arizona). The last time I saw her was Christmas. She gave no hints that she was pregnant again.

Fast forward to tonight she's posting pics on Facebook of her and the new baby!! I didn't know what to do. She never posted one thing about it on Facebook until tonight.

I know she's on welfare. I know her boyfriend cheats on her. I know they are seconds away from breaking up all the time. I know she has crazy drama with all of her "friends". Why would she add another baby in to her mess of a life? :(
Posted by Anonymous on Jun. 9, 2013 at 9:19 PM
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bowribbonmama
by on Jun. 9, 2013 at 9:19 PM
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How sad that she couldn't trust you enough to tell you :(
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Jessy613
by Diamond Member on Jun. 9, 2013 at 9:20 PM
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It's her life, her choice..as sad as it is.

She's an adult, let her live her life. 

williams81209
by Member on Jun. 9, 2013 at 9:20 PM
Oh my I'm sorry she didn't tell you. :( sometimes as girls in "love" we just don't think straight...
PinkyPan
by on Jun. 9, 2013 at 9:22 PM

I find this very sad. I can not imagine finding out via FB that I have a grandchild. Regardless of her choices she obviously felt she could not share the news with you.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Jun. 9, 2013 at 9:22 PM
She lives across the country. How could I know unless she told me and she didn't.

Quoting Anonymous:

How could you not know?

Way to neglect your child to be able to miss this big of a thing!

Anonymous
by Anonymous 3 on Jun. 9, 2013 at 9:22 PM
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....can't imagine why she didn't tell you...I'm sure you would have been super supportive....
PinkHart
by on Jun. 9, 2013 at 9:23 PM
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How exactly is she neglecting a child of adult age living in another STATE?

Quoting Anonymous:

How could you not know?

Way to neglect your child to be able to miss this big of a thing!

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emmypaige
by on Jun. 9, 2013 at 9:23 PM
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Well it sounds like she hid it because the pregnancy wasn't planned, and she was stressed out. I'd just reach out to her, and see if everything is okay.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 4 on Jun. 9, 2013 at 9:23 PM

That honestly seems to be how it goes, sadly. People in shitty situations just keep having babies. I don't understand it myself, but I've seen it and heard of it happening again and again.

I  hope she can get her life together for the sake of her kids.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Jun. 9, 2013 at 9:24 PM
I would've been supportive as I was with her first. No I don't agree with her choices but I've always been as helpful as I can. I went to visit them for Christmas, we have plans to visit them this summer, I always call her and ask how Alexander is doing and have sent them things and money if needed.

Quoting Anonymous:

....can't imagine why she didn't tell you...I'm sure you would have been super supportive....
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