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my husband shut that nurse right up *ETA FOR THE IGNORANT* *ETA 2*

Posted by on Jun. 12, 2013 at 11:59 AM
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i had 2 c sections and were pregnant again going for a vbac home birth. i went to the hospital today cuz i thought i was going into pre term labor. the nurses look at me like i have 2 heads when i say im having a vbac. one nurse said she had been a nurse for quite a while im guessing about 10 years and its all been in the hospital. lord knows how many people shes seen in that time. anyways she brings up how 2 times in the whole time she had been a nurse she saw women with placenta ruptures which imo shows how uncommon it is but shes trying to scare me with it. the dr wouldn't even come in my room cuz i had seen him before and he gave me crap about it too. anyways as i was being discharged i went in the bathroom to get dressed and a nurse started talking to dh about how i should have a repeat c section and he flat out told her why she was wrong. he told her that i was tricked into the first one and weve done our research and we know this is whats best and he pretty much told her off for 5 minutes. i just love that i have him. i deal with so much rudeness over this choice and it really bugs me. i already suffer from bad depression which is directly from my second c section and i feel so alone in my choice but hes there for me. he researches it with me and hes so supportive, i couldn't ask for a better man.

no point to this post other than to brag on my awesome husband :)



ETA 

VBAC and the Risk of Uterine Rupture:

The greatest concern for women who have had a previous cesarean is the risk of uterine rupture during a vaginal birth. According to the American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists (ACOG), if you had a previous cesarean with a low transverse incision, the risk of uterine rupture in a vaginal delivery is .2 to 1.5%, which is approximately 1 chance in 5001.

Some studies have documented increased rates of uterine rupture in women who undergo labor induction or augmentation. You should discuss the possible complications associated with induction with your health care provider. Recently, ACOG stated that VBAC is safer than a repeat cesarean, and VBAC with more than one previous cesarean does not pose any increased risk.2

http://americanpregnancy.org/labornbirth/vbac.html



this is getting alot more replies then i expected. this post was simply to talk about my husband who fully supportive of me. i do have a midwife for thos who asked. i will have a certified midwife, a midwife student, an rn, my husband who is an lpn, and my certified doula there. i wont be going through all of these negative replies. you think im stupid or wrong whatever thats your thoughts but i know this is whats best for me. ive been researching all this since 6 months before even getting pregnant. i researched my midwife before getting pregnant and i am being as safe as possible. my risks are much higher having major surgery than having a vbac. im doing it at home because none of the hospitals in the area are even supportive of vbacs. the hospital is 3 minutes up the road from my house if god forbid something happens. my midwife comes with medicines, iv supplies, and cpr kits for myself and the baby if theyre needed. 

i think im covering everything

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Anonymous
by Anonymous on Jun. 12, 2013 at 12:01 PM
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VBAC is fine. VBAC homebirth after two c-sections, not a smart idea at all. 

Anonymous
by Anonymous on Jun. 12, 2013 at 12:03 PM
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You'll be back on here whining about what went wrong...ur not being to smart but its your choice. So when something goes wrong you can only blame yourself
kagegirl
by on Jun. 12, 2013 at 12:05 PM
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You need a new doctor or a midwife even. they are far more understanding.

almondpigeon
by Ruby Member on Jun. 12, 2013 at 12:05 PM
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I think its great that you have a supportive husband!
2Sparrows4ever
by on Jun. 12, 2013 at 12:05 PM
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Why cant you VBAC in the hospital?
Anonymous
by Anonymous on Jun. 12, 2013 at 12:06 PM
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Have you ever been a nurse and watched someone die or nearly die? Because I can tell you, especially with babies, it sticks with you. While I agree that every woman should birth as she deems appropriate (within reason...) and that vaginal is almost always better, what you need to understand is that that nurse is coming from having comforted mothers as they hold their dead babies, possibly zipping mothers up into body bags. You start to err on the side of what you have seen to be safer.

2Sparrows4ever
by on Jun. 12, 2013 at 12:06 PM
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This too
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GOOD LUCK!!!!!


Quoting almondpigeon:

I think its great that you have a supportive husband!
wymama610
by Gold Member on Jun. 12, 2013 at 12:06 PM
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This! I mean my God........ Hope things end up ok for you and your baby OP.

Quoting Anonymous:

VBAC is fine. VBAC homebirth after two c-sections, not a smart idea at all. 


wooly
by Knitting Maniac on Jun. 12, 2013 at 12:07 PM

 Wow, I get that you don't want another c-section, but a home birth?? Have you discussed it with a Mid wife? I had mine natural, but I hemmorage and because of that I was considered high risk and I couldn't even go to a birthing center. There's no way I'd have done a home birth!

LoveMyKBabies
by on Jun. 12, 2013 at 12:07 PM
I agree with this. Find a birthing center to have your VBAC at. They are trained professionals & will follow your birth plan perfectly. If something DOES go wrong, they can get you and baby to a hospital quickly if you need medical intervention. Very understanding people work in them. Good luck with your VBAC!

Quoting Anonymous:

VBAC is fine. VBAC homebirth after two c-sections, not a smart idea at all. 

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