I don't even know what to do anymore. Ever since she was a baby, I've kept her clean, groomed, and emphasized how important it is to keep herself groomed and clean. Lately, though, she has been in this phase where she doesn't want to do anything. She doesn't want to shower, brush her teeth, comb her hair, and I discovered recently she isn't wiping right because of the mess I saw in her underwear. I showed her how to wipe correctly when she was potty training, and she didn't seem to have a problem with it then, so I don't know what she's doing there.
She just started her period the other day for the first time, and we've talked about it numerous times before. She knew what to expect, how to put a pad on, what to carry with her. I'm so glad it started during summer vacation because she has all summer to get used to it now. Anyways, she kept saying "It's gross!" and doesn't want to have to touch her own pad or wipe herself or anything. She knows it's normal blood and there's nothing gross or wrong with the blood, we've had that talk many times before.
What can I do? Has anyone else experienced this with their pre-teen daughters? I keep myself groomed and clean and she has always seen me like this, so I don't know what the problem is. She doesn't even care if she goes to school in matching clothes or not. Of course, that's not a problem anymore since school is out for the summer, but I'm worried about when school starts again. We all know how mean 12 and 13 year old girls can be, and I am trying to help her so she doesn't get picked on. I want her to be groomed and clean, but she doesn't seem to care.