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Do you withhold affection as a form as punishment?

Anonymous
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I felt like my SO made a jerk move today. My DD didn't eat all her food because she just didn't want. She does that time to time .. she's five. I was at the gym so I wasn't here. Anyway, he put her to bed and I got home about ten minutes after and she called me to give her kisses goodnight and said that SO didn't kiss her goodnight. So I ask him why and he tells me to ask her.
She then tells me she didnt even eat half her food. Well it ticked me and I told him that I didn'tfeel that withholding affection was a healthy way of punishment and he basically got ticked and said oh well if I didn't like it too bad that she needs to learn. Obviously I got mad and left the room.

Do you do this when your child doesn't listen or as a punishment?


Edit. SO has never been like that before so it suprised me.
Posted by Anonymous on Jun. 12, 2013 at 9:04 PM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Jun. 12, 2013 at 9:06 PM
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He is a piece of shit. That poor little girl.

We NEVER withhold affection no matter what the child did or how angry we are.

KGreen75
by on Jun. 12, 2013 at 9:06 PM
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No. He is a prick and I would take my Kid for ice cream.
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inspain
by Platinum Member on Jun. 12, 2013 at 9:07 PM

Never.  That's really shitty.

momto2crazykids
by Silver Member on Jun. 12, 2013 at 9:07 PM

that is horrible poor baby

Freela
by Platinum Member on Jun. 12, 2013 at 9:07 PM

I agree with you that this is not a kind of punishment I would use.

catrig
by Platinum Member on Jun. 12, 2013 at 9:07 PM
I never withhold affection as a punishment. I will put it off a few minutes if I am touched out.
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silverdawn99
by Ruby Member on Jun. 12, 2013 at 9:08 PM

no not ever...well sort of

I get on to my children but i always give them a hug or kiss after and tell them i still love them

but if i am really angry they will try to suck up and give me a hug and i tell them not right now. but i always calm down and give them a reassuring hug and kiss

* but i would never withhold affection for something so petty*

2pink1blue
by Silver Member on Jun. 12, 2013 at 9:09 PM

Never.  No matter what my kids do I believe they need to KNOW deep down that DH and I will both ALWAYS be there for them and that we love them UNCONDITIONALLY no matter what (not just when they eat, behave, get along, etc.).

That was a shitty thing to do to a 5-year-old.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 3 on Jun. 12, 2013 at 9:10 PM
No. I actually give them more affection during times when they are being contrary. It's hard for them to see that we love them when they are being punished. Affection is my way of showing them I still love them despite when they do wrong.
Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Jun. 12, 2013 at 9:10 PM
Me too. He has never been that way the years we havr been together. I would never act that way to my kid.

Quoting catrig:

I never withhold affection as a punishment. I will put it off a few minutes if I am touched out.
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