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Is a shower for your second child tacky? Whatabout third?
Whatabout if you know its a different sex?
I didnt get a shower or even after birth little get together for my ds because he was baby 2 and I expect the same with my third one. My family just doesnt think anyone but the first baby needs a shower. I fully understand the third one because we already have a boy and a girl and dont need anything really but diapers. Someone threw my cousin a diaper shower for her 5th baby and the ages of children were very close. I dont want it for gifts at all but I thought it would have been nice to have a little get together for my ds and even this one when he/its (not finding out the sex) was/is born. Instead everyone acted like he wasnt as important because he wasnt the first. People kept asking if I was doing anything and I would always respond "Its tacky for the mother to throw a shower for herself, its like saying I expect presents, so unless someone else is throwing it, no i dont think we are having one but you can come to the hospital after if youd like." I do think that a mother throwing the shower or the bride throwing the bridal party etc.. is tacky.
What are your oppinions? Did you get a shower for more than your first?