There's this guy I work with and he's really sweet. We were all talking about our spouses and I told him I'm going through a divorce. He asked me why I'm going through that and I told him, I don't have anything to hide. I told him about all the cheating(exdh did this 4 times) and the abuse(put exdh in jail twice) that I went through. He said that I should drop the divorce and FORGIVE him and. Ummm no, there's not that much forgiving in the world. He called me cold hearted and said that I'm setting my dd up for a failure when she tries to have a relationship. Basically, he was saying she'd going to follow in my foot steps.