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My SO is a Professional Athlete

Anonymous
Posted by Anonymous
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And he wants me to stop working so we can have a baby

I work in an industry that requires a lot of travel

I have a 6 year old from a previous relationship

His dad and I have as close to 50/50 as it gets.  

I will travel up to 4 weeks at a time, fly out my 6 year old with his dad or with my SO when possible, when I know I have breaks, and then be back to work inbetween that time.  

My SO wants me to either work from home or quit altogether

Issue is, working from home cuts my personal income almost in half, I need to be out in the field to get my money.

His argument is that it doesn't matter how much I bring in because he makes enough

But I didn't go through getting

2 AA degrees

2 BS Degrees

and 1 Masters Degree to sit at home and be a SAHM

I just didn't

I am doing my dream career

Ever since my first AA I knew I wanted to do this.

Im not even near done with my career.  I am 25, I am just getting started and my footing is pretty good, Im on a really nice upward slope to success and I dont want to give it up.

I could be pregnant and do field work

I can have a newborn and do field work

He just doesn't like that Id be leaving so much, but really, I could bring a family member along to help with a new baby

idk

what do you ladies think?  I just need opinions.

Posted by Anonymous on Jun. 15, 2013 at 8:56 PM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Jun. 15, 2013 at 8:58 PM
If I had it to do over again, I would not quit my job for any man.
imakehimscream
by He screams on Jun. 15, 2013 at 8:59 PM
Idk do what you think is best
JenD_77
by Bronze Member on Jun. 15, 2013 at 9:00 PM
Weigh out pros and cons with him. Explain you feel that doin the sahm thing seems a waste. Maybe compromise that if you get pregnant you will take time off but unless you can find a way to do it locally without travel (or less travel) you want to continue.
Suzy_Sunshine
by Gold Member on Jun. 15, 2013 at 9:00 PM
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You don't need a baby. You don't want a baby.

Be a woman and be honest with him about that.

loving.life
by on Jun. 15, 2013 at 9:01 PM
Read the book lean in.

Interesting take on careers.
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Jun. 15, 2013 at 9:01 PM

I do want a baby

I don't want to stop my life to have a baby, I didn't with the first, and I don't want to with my second, third or however many I will have.

Quoting Suzy_Sunshine:

You don't need a baby. You don't want a baby.

Be a woman and be honest with him about that.


evelynolivesmom
by Gold Member on Jun. 15, 2013 at 9:02 PM

 That's tough, 2 really big dreams. You should not be expected to give up everything you worked for, he needs to compromise.

I'm a huge sports nut, can I have a hint?

Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Jun. 15, 2013 at 9:03 PM

I don't even know what the compromise will be either than possibly asking if we can rent a condo or home in another state or two.  My contracts usually end up in one of 3 states, so maybe even only taking contracts in 2 of the states would be a compromise.


Basketball

Quoting evelynolivesmom:

 That's tough, 2 really big dreams. You should not be expected to give up everything you worked for, he needs to compromise.

I'm a huge sports nut, can I have a hint?


Suzy_Sunshine
by Gold Member on Jun. 15, 2013 at 9:05 PM

If you dont' want to stop your life then you dont' want a baby.

grow up

Quoting Anonymous:

I do want a baby

I don't want to stop my life to have a baby, I didn't with the first, and I don't want to with my second, third or however many I will have.

Quoting Suzy_Sunshine:

You don't need a baby. You don't want a baby.

Be a woman and be honest with him about that.



blue.chairs
by on Jun. 15, 2013 at 9:06 PM
Well since he's just an SO and not your husband, I think you should keep on with your career. He shouldn't expect you to quit when you don't even have the commitment of marriage.
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