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I refuse to be bitter.

Posted by on Jun. 16, 2013 at 10:42 AM
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I had emergency surgery on Wednesday due to an ectopic pregnancy that cost me the bean and my left tube.
My pregnant friend came over with a get well balloon in one hand and her baby shower invitation in the other.The shower is on my due date from them first pregnancy that I miscarried in November (which isn't a problem since she probably doesn't remember). And I felt this sudden flush of anger, towards her insensitivity especially after knowing the pain from her own loss a year ago.
But I am not going to let myself become bitter, I will go to her baby shower and be happy to be there. I will not let anything or anyone get me down.
by on Jun. 16, 2013 at 10:42 AM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 on Jun. 16, 2013 at 10:43 AM
A positive attitude is half the battle. Good on you. So sorry for the loss.
imakehimscream
by He screams on Jun. 16, 2013 at 10:44 AM
I'm so sorry :(
Pink.Sunshine.
by on Jun. 16, 2013 at 10:44 AM

This happened to me in September of last year :( I'm sorry for your loss.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Jun. 16, 2013 at 10:45 AM
Women like you are rare... Sorry for your loss
mommytoeandb
by Platinum Member on Jun. 16, 2013 at 10:46 AM
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That is beyond tacky.  I could look past the due date issue as she likely forgot (DH has a hard time keeping track of those things).  Delivery of a shower invite while in the hospital...not a classy move at all.  I would tell her exactly how you feel.  You are absolutely right in looking past her misstep, but I would not be able to look at the friendship the same way unless it was hashed out.  

(((HUGS)))

EAzizM
by Erica on Jun. 16, 2013 at 10:46 AM
Thank you. I have had great support and I have managed to stay chipper through it all because of this support.

Quoting Anonymous:

A positive attitude is half the battle. Good on you. So sorry for the loss.
EAzizM
by Erica on Jun. 16, 2013 at 10:47 AM
:( I hate hearing about others who have gone through it...I wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy. Hugs

Quoting Pink.Sunshine.:

This happened to me in September of last year :( I'm sorry for your loss.

svolkov
by Emerald Member on Jun. 16, 2013 at 10:47 AM
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This. Tho seriously why didnt she wait to give you the invitation. Thats just shitty


Quoting Anonymous:

A positive attitude is half the battle. Good on you. So sorry for the loss.

BEXi
by BEXi on Jun. 16, 2013 at 10:47 AM
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That was very insensitive on her part. she should have waited a couple of weeks at least.

DarksMama
by Platinum Member on Jun. 16, 2013 at 10:48 AM
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Wow...her timing is really shit. I'd not be bitter, but pissed severely at the tacky presentation.

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