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Moms of Special Needs Children Have Needs Too!

by Lori Lite

Moms of Special Needs Children are stressed out. According to a study conducted by the University of Wisconsin-Madison, Moms of adolescents with Autism experience and have stress levels similar to “Combat Soldiers!” This revealing statement is applicable for all moms, dads, siblings, and  families of Special Needs Children. Families face physical, emotional, and financial demands while surviving on less sleep and less time for themselves than the average parent. A night of uninterrupted sleep is a vague memory for many parents. Holiday time is a great time of year to reach out with a smile and a caring hand. Thank you to Snappin Ministries Special Needs Parents Network and my Facebook friends for providing me with the following insights.

What Do Moms Really Want and Need?

Time for Themselves:

Getting their hair or nails done at a peaceful time of day.
A night out with their spouse.
A nice relaxing hot bubble bath without interruptions.
A reliable and capable babysitter to allow for any of the above to take place in a state of relaxation.
Joyful outings with friends where the focus is on laughing!

Help with housework, cooking and cleaning. Meals when they are in crisis mode.
An offer to entertain their other children when they have appointments with their special needs child.
Help arrange them some alone time, offer to take their child/children out for a few hours.
Snow removal/yard help.
Companionship and an occasional check in of “How are YOU doing?”
Gift Baskets: Self-indulging ones that are made just for moms with no time on their hands, bath/shower items, even special treats baskets. Uplifting and relaxing music CDs. Indigo Dreams Rainforest Relaxation and Indigo Dreams: Adult Relaxation are big hits.

Gift Cards/Certificates:

Gas Station gift card to make sure they have a full tank in times of emergencies.
Therapeutic massage or spa day.
Dinner certificate/card to their favorite restaurant.
Pharmacy gift cards, such as CVS.
Supermarket gift cards to pick up items quickly.
Smiles: So simple and FREE! Smile when you see a parent and child in a store, restaurant, or playground. Instead of grimacing or staring at an outburst or melt down, give a sincere and understanding smile.

Relaxation: Often overlooked but paramount to every member of the family. The following CDs offer stress management for every age.

Indigo Dreams shorter stories with relaxation techniques for younger child. 

Indigo Ocean Dreams longer stories with relaxation techniques for older children.

Indigo Teen Dreams guided instructions with relaxation techniques for teens.

Indigo Dreams: Adult Relaxation guided instructions with relaxation techniques for adults.

Indigo Dreams: Garden of Wellness stories for all children includes bubble blowing technique to release anger and  positive statements to encourage healthy eating.

 Indigo Dreams: 3 CD Set: All 3 children’s CDs: 3 Hours of stories, techniques & stories

Stress Free Kids founder Lori Lite has created a line of books and CDs designed to help children, teens, and adults decrease stress, anxiety, and anger. Ms. Lite’s books, CDs, and lesson plans are considered a resource for parents, psychologists, therapists, child life specialists, teachers, and yoga instructors. Lori is a certified children’s meditation facilitator and Sears’ Manage My Life parenting expert. For more information visit  Stress Free Kids and for daily advice follow Lori on Twitter and Facebook.

Stress Free Kids Fund Raising Program brings stress management and relaxation to families while generating funds that will benefit YOUR school, group, or organization.

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Tags: aspergers, Autism, children's health, Families with Autism, Lori Lite, Moms of Special Needs Children, parenting, sensitive children, spd, special needs, Special Needs families, stress free kids, Stress Management, Support for Special Needs Families, the Coffee Klatch

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Posted by Anonymous on Jun. 17, 2013 at 1:36 AM
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by Anonymous 2 on Jun. 17, 2013 at 1:39 AM

No one around here is going to do any of that, not my family or my husband or my in-laws! Im stressed and tired, but I love my son and so its all good, I dont mind, except when it comes to pooping alone, that would be nice!

by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Jun. 17, 2013 at 1:47 AM
SPECIAL NEEDS MOMS – A look inside.

You may think us “special moms” have it pretty rough.
We have no choice. We just manage life when things get really tough.
We’ve made it through the days we thought we’d never make it through.
We’ve even impressed our own selves with all that we can do.

We’ve gained patience beyond measure, love we never dreamed of giving.
We worry about the future but know this “special” life’s worth living.
We have had days and hurt sometimes, but we hold our heads up high. 
We feel joy and pride and thankfulness more often than we cry.

For our kids we aren’t just supermoms. No, we do so much more.
We are cheerleaders, nurses and therapists who don’t walk out the door. 
We handle rude remarks and unkind stares with dignity and grace.
Even though the pain they bring cannot be erased.

Therapies and treatment routes are a lot for us to digest.
We don’t know what the future holds but give our kids our best.
None of us can be replaced, so we don’t get many breaks.
It wears us out, but to help our kids, we’ll do whatever it takes.

We are selfless, not by choice, you see. Our kids just have more needs.
We’re not out to change the world, but want to plant some seeds.
We want our kids accepted. That really is our aim.
When we look at them we just see kids. We hope you’ll do the same.

- April Vernon

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