My parents live in our family home, it's been passed down to the eldest child for five generations, I'm the sixth generation to live in it. I'm an only child so if they move when they retire or when they pass, it goes to me. I have a six year old son who was the result of a rape when I was a teenager, my husband acts as a dad to him and we don't think any less of him, he's the light of my world. I'm pregnant with my husband and I's biological first. We had a family gathering with a bunch of relatives at my parents house and one of the guests was my great-great-aunt, she's like 90 years old, she's kind of senile and grew up in a different time. We were talking about the house and old memories in it, she grew up in the house, and she asked me what my plans were for it. I explained that we didn't really have a desire for a large house, but I don't want to sell it outside of the family either, so we were planning on keeping our current house and renting my parents house out until my son is old enough, 25ish, and then I will sign it over to him to do with what he wishes. My elderly aunt said "you are leaving it to Abel? Not your next child?" and I said well yes, he lived the first few years of his life in the house and loves it and he is the eldest. And then she said "My grandfather is probably turning in his grave, five generations in this house and it's being left to a bastard." I told her that we don't talk that way and we don't use that word concerning my son and she shouldn't either. I know that shes elderly and doesn't really know what she's saying, she says things like that without even realizing its offensive, but it still hurt and made me angry. I don't even want to have him around her anymore if she thinks of him like that.
on Jun. 17, 2013 at 5:16 PM