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Disability/ SSI question

Anonymous
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I know I'm going to get bashed to hell for this, but oh well. I've done my research but would like to hear from moms with same issues.

I have had anxiety ever since my DD was born. I haven't seen a therapist or anything, but in the process of finding one to go see and talk to before I would go down the SSI/Disability route.

Ok. When I went in to have my daughter, after 15 hours of labor, I had to have an emergency c-section. When the dr was cutting me, I could feel it and passed out from the pain. They have me other medicine that kept me in a knocked out state but apparently I was talking. When they went to show me my daughter when they took her out, I was unable to see. I never got the immediate bonding time. After she was born, I couldn't see for 3 hours. I couldn't hold her or anything for those first hours of her life. I started having anxiety attacks about 3 times a day. Got prescribed 1mg Ativan, 20mg Paxil, and 20mg Hydroxyzine Pam every 6 hours. My anxiety kept increasing. Dr upped my dose of Paxil to 20mg twice a day. Anxiety kept increasing to about 5-20minute attacks per day. Decided to go to a different dr. He put me on same meds except Ativan twice a day. 4 months later and I'm up to Ativan 3 times per day. I have about 10 sever anxiety attacks per day. They happen randomly and are severe. I think I'm dying every time. I hate going to the dr, or taking my DD to the dr. I get panicky and have to take an Ativan before I leave the house, and again at the drs office. I hate leaving my home. When I have to leave, I have to take an Ativan 15 minutes before I am leaving just to make it out of the house. I can't stand being around people anymore. Any place with more than 5 people, and I have an anxiety attack and need to leave. Im fortunate enough to have my mother do all my grocery shopping for me so I don't have to go to the store.

So I'm just curious, I have 2 years of this anxiety documented and how it's gotten more severe.

Are there any moms who get this for anxiety? What would my next steps be? I want to work, but I can't handle the people. If I could find a job that was just me I'd be fine. What did you do to start the SSI process? How long did it take to get approved? Is 2 years enough? Do I have to see a therapist or is the increasing anxiety enough? (I ask this because I have the debilitating attacks just leaving my house. Drs make it so much worse)
Posted by Anonymous on Jun. 18, 2013 at 1:09 AM
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kelly617
by Platinum Member on Jun. 18, 2013 at 1:18 AM
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Have you been seeing a doctor regularly?

i'm not a doctor but to me it sounds like you need to see a specialist to get your meds under control...there are a lot of meds for anxiety out there and not all of them are successful with everyone. A med that works  great for someone wont' work at all for someone else. And you need a doc that is going to work with you to find the combo that works for you and allows you to function in a normal manner.
And yes you probably need to see a therapist as well because it sounds like you might have PTSD due to the csection

Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Jun. 18, 2013 at 1:24 AM
Thank you so much for your comment. I am currently trying to find a psychiatrist around me that accepts my insurance. I've only found one and she wasn't accepting new patients at this time. But thank you. I know i should go -- just have been dragging my feet a lot because of not wanting to see another dr.


And yes, I have been seeing my dr regularly. It started out as every month but now is about every 3 months due to my anxiety of drs.


Quoting kelly617:

Have you been seeing a doctor regularly?

i'm not a doctor but to me it sounds like you need to see a specialist to get your meds under control...there are a lot of meds for anxiety out there and not all of them are successful with everyone. A med that works  great for someone wont' work at all for someone else. And you need a doc that is going to work with you to find the combo that works for you and allows you to function in a normal manner.
And yes you probably need to see a therapist as well because it sounds like you might have PTSD due to the csection


tossed
by Platinum Member on Jun. 18, 2013 at 1:24 AM

Well, your comment that you have not seen a therapist means that the anxiety has not been properly documented.

Your first step is to see a therapist and attempt THERAPY. Honestly, without proper documentation from a mental health professional, any application for disability is likely to be denied. Some doctor who has pumped you full of meds has done you no favors without making you go to a mental health professional. The SS guidelines REQUIRE that a mental illness be documented and treated by a mental health professional.

It is not that I am not sympathetic, but I had the case with a botched epi, felt each of the cuts, did lamaze breathing during a c section, went temporarily blind (something in those meds they give), did not see my son for over 12 hours, could not hold him for 4-5 days due to him being in the NICU, finally got him home only to have my csection incision split open....blood every where.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Jun. 18, 2013 at 1:31 AM
Wow... I'm really sorry that you went through that. :(

I'm trying to do the therapist thing on my own. My primary dr has not referred me to one an has been trying to treat me himself. I don't want disability/SSI. I would love to not have the anxiety attacks and live a normal life and not in fear of when they are going to happen. Since he hasn't referred me, I'm trying to find one on my own so that I can try other mess or other alternatives. I haven't worked in a year due to the anxiety attacks and being around people and my savings is about gone. I've applied to every work at home job I have been able to find in hopes that I can get something like that and not have to worry about it. This was just a question because it would be a very final and last resort in order to continue supporting my daughter. I don't receive any PA and I'm a single mother. I wouldn't want PA. I know I could go and get FS and housing and bill help tomorrow and be approved and basically live for free, but I don't want that life. I want to be normal and happy and not worry and not be scared every single day of my life.


Quoting tossed:

Well, your comment that you have not seen a therapist means that the anxiety has not been properly documented.


Your first step is to see a therapist and attempt THERAPY. Honestly, without proper documentation from a mental health professional, any application for disability is likely to be denied. Some doctor who has pumped you full of meds has done you no favors without making you go to a mental health professional. The SS guidelines REQUIRE that a mental illness be documented and treated by a mental health professional.


It is not that I am not sympathetic, but I had the case with a botched epi, felt each of the cuts, did lamaze breathing during a c section, went temporarily blind (something in those meds they give), did not see my son for over 12 hours, could not hold him for 4-5 days due to him being in the NICU, finally got him home only to have my csection incision split open....blood every where.


Dzyre1115
by Desiree` on Jun. 18, 2013 at 1:33 AM

 I have no idea what you should do, I have an ACTUAL disability so I would work if I could and be grateful!

tossed
by Platinum Member on Jun. 18, 2013 at 1:37 AM
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Quoting Anonymous:

Wow... I'm really sorry that you went through that. :(

I'm trying to do the therapist thing on my own. My primary dr has not referred me to one an has been trying to treat me himself. I don't want disability/SSI. I would love to not have the anxiety attacks and live a normal life and not in fear of when they are going to happen. Since he hasn't referred me, I'm trying to find one on my own so that I can try other mess or other alternatives. I haven't worked in a year due to the anxiety attacks and being around people and my savings is about gone. I've applied to every work at home job I have been able to find in hopes that I can get something like that and not have to worry about it. This was just a question because it would be a very final and last resort in order to continue supporting my daughter. I don't receive any PA and I'm a single mother. I wouldn't want PA. I know I could go and get FS and housing and bill help tomorrow and be approved and basically live for free, but I don't want that life. I want to be normal and happy and not worry and not be scared every single day of my life.


Quoting tossed:

Well, your comment that you have not seen a therapist means that the anxiety has not been properly documented.


Your first step is to see a therapist and attempt THERAPY. Honestly, without proper documentation from a mental health professional, any application for disability is likely to be denied. Some doctor who has pumped you full of meds has done you no favors without making you go to a mental health professional. The SS guidelines REQUIRE that a mental illness be documented and treated by a mental health professional.


It is not that I am not sympathetic, but I had the case with a botched epi, felt each of the cuts, did lamaze breathing during a c section, went temporarily blind (something in those meds they give), did not see my son for over 12 hours, could not hold him for 4-5 days due to him being in the NICU, finally got him home only to have my csection incision split open....blood every where.



Unsolicited advice. Go and apply for food stamps and whatever benefits you can get now before you are out of money and more desperate. That will only add to your anxiety. Have you asked your dr for a referral to a therapist? You need that. I understand that you want to work, but you are being denied the tools you need to work. I really suspect that if you saw a qualified specialist who could help you with the PTSD and anxiety issues, you would be much better. A psychiatrist is much better trained to prescribe anxiety meds than a general dr. Good luck. I hope you can see a therapist soon. In the meantime, apply for the benefits you need so that things don't get worse!
Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Jun. 18, 2013 at 1:39 AM
I got let go of 3 jobs due to my anxiety. Hence why I've applied for every work from home job opportunity out there. When I've applied to new jobs, they speak with the jobs I've lost and they tell them about my anxiety attacks and I never receive a call back. I really don't want to be on SSI or disability, it was just a question. I would love to live normally and have a job to provide for my DD.

Thank you though!


Quoting Dzyre1115:

 I have no idea what you should do, I have an ACTUAL disability so I would work if I could and be grateful!


twistedpartdeux
by on Jun. 18, 2013 at 1:40 AM

You need to see a psychiatrist and you need to think first about jobs with less people.  What do you do for a living right now?  Have you considered a work from home position?  Or a computer position where you can work independently?  I'm sure there are other options of working by yourself.  I just don't think you've exhausted all the avenues yet and may be jumping the gun on applying for SSI.  It will leave you futureless in terms of any future raises, better living conditions, better savings, better opportunities for your kid.

kelly617
by Platinum Member on Jun. 18, 2013 at 1:42 AM

I don't know the in's and out's of SSI but if you have been seeing your doc regularly (you said you did) then I would think that the paperwork from that is probably enough?

Your doc might actually know...they probably have to fill out a form or something and I'm SURE most docs have done it before


Quoting Anonymous:

Thank you so much for your comment. I am currently trying to find a psychiatrist around me that accepts my insurance. I've only found one and she wasn't accepting new patients at this time. But thank you. I know i should go -- just have been dragging my feet a lot because of not wanting to see another dr.


And yes, I have been seeing my dr regularly. It started out as every month but now is about every 3 months due to my anxiety of drs.


Quoting kelly617:

Have you been seeing a doctor regularly?

i'm not a doctor but to me it sounds like you need to see a specialist to get your meds under control...there are a lot of meds for anxiety out there and not all of them are successful with everyone. A med that works  great for someone wont' work at all for someone else. And you need a doc that is going to work with you to find the combo that works for you and allows you to function in a normal manner.
And yes you probably need to see a therapist as well because it sounds like you might have PTSD due to the csection




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twistedpartdeux
by on Jun. 18, 2013 at 1:42 AM

It's just weird that your thinking SSI before you've even left the confines of one PCP's office.

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