UPDATE! My boyfriend wants to throw his dd a birthday party and I say no
His dd turned 6 and she wanted to go to an amusement park. They did on June 5th and her actual bday was June 6th. That weekend the dd went with her mom. Her mom never had a bday party for her.
So now my boyfriend says since the BM never had the dd a bday party that he might throw one for her. I don't think he should. I'm pretty sure the dd overheard us talking about it because right after we spoke about it, he took her to school and she said that she hopes her mom has her a bday party this weekend (2 weeks after her bday) and if her mom can't do it, if he can (dad).
I said no. It makes me feel bad because I'm the "stepmom" and I'm saying no but here's my thoughts:
He spoils us all-first of all
But this seems like it goes in the direction of the dd playing sides against her mom and dad.
Plus, we spent about $200 on her bday already and we could use the money elsewhere before even spending it on a bday party for a bday that will be 3 weeks old at least by the time we have the party.
What do you think?
By the way, if this was my dd, I would say no as well.
And keep in mind, I live with my boyfriend and his kids, so it's not just HIS money. The kids are with us 50% but lately about 60%.
ETA: Someone suggested that we have a bday cake with family for a little "party". I just realized we did this got her also. Family and a friend of hers came over for dinner and a cake, with presents.
And also, it bugs me that moms will like to say "you're JUST the girlfriend". I know I am. Funny that it's being thrown in my face the day BM is dropping off the kids a day early again.