I drove to my 19 year old's college town today to help him pack up after a summer class. I told him I'd be at his apartment by 1pm, but arrived at 10am. When I got there, there were lots of beer and alcohol bottles everywhere that him and his roommates hadn't thrown out yet.
I was extremely mad and helped him pack up his stuff, and after we drove home I said we'd talk about it tomorrow. What would you do?
Update: He just came downstairs and tried to ask about where I had put something. I told him I didn't want to talk to him or see him until we talked tomorrow.
He told me I was acting immature and ridiculous and said he wasn't staying here. He took his car, which is in MY name, and said he was going to his girlfriend's. Ugh. He won't answer my calls on his cell.
Update 2: He came home from his girlfriend's around 1. I really lost my cool when he came in the house because he didn't return any of my calls all night and morning, and I said I can't believe how disrespectful and irresponsible he's become, that his friends and girlfriend are bad influences.
He lost it and said he "can't f-ing stand it here or around you", went up to his room, grabbed his bags and left. He just sent me a text saying he's going to live in his apartment all summer and not to count on seeing him anytime soon. I'm devastated.