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Would you loan a 16 year old $$$ for a Plan B pill?

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Question: If asked for a loan to buy Plan B, what would you do?

Options:

Yes, unconditionally

No, unconditionally

Yes, after getting parental permission

Yes, even if the parents disapproved

Speak to the parents and let them handle it

Other (comment)

I would purchase it for them myself


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Total Votes: 55

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So I'm sure you want the backstory...

I'm 41, married, 14 year old DS and 10 year old DD so they are not quite at the age for me to deal with this yet. I've been spending a couple of days a week with my 23 year old niece and her boyfriend who live in a tight knit hispanic neighborhood helping them watch their 1 month old as she gets treatment for PPD (cleaning the house, cooking meals and so on).

Today, a neighbor girl who is about 16 came in and told my niece that she was having sex with her boyfriend last night and the condom broke. Her boyfriend doesn't get paid until next Tuesday and she needed to borrow $50 for the Plan B pill. My niece didn't hesitate to give it over and she and I both explained what the pill did, what it was for, when to take it, etc.

So my question is... if you were in a similar situation, asked by another parents' teen to be loaned money for Plan B, what would you do?

This is assuming that you trust that they will spend it where they say they will and that they will pay it back.

by on Jun. 19, 2013 at 2:50 AM
Replies (21-30):
TheMetal
by on Jun. 19, 2013 at 3:43 AM

Ah, good thinking. I added it as a poll option.

Quoting LaughCryLive:

I might not hand over the cash but I would buy it for her and give it to her.


LADYxGHOST
by Bronze Member on Jun. 19, 2013 at 3:52 AM

 Honestly it would be best if the young woman could go to her mom for this, but since the concequences of being sexually active are hers then she has the right to decide how she is going to handle it and if not including her mother is what she has decided, then it is a good thing she has your sister to turn to.  I suggest your sister find out where the nearest free clinic is to give the info to the young woman. 


Quoting TheMetal:

She claims that she has never taken it before and her mom does not know she is having sex. We explained these things to her and she was a little to shaken to be receptive to conversation regarding contraception options at the time so my niece told her to return when she is ready.

Quoting LADYxGHOST:

My only concern is that if she is that aware of it, has she already taken it before? The Morning after pill is dangerous when taken too close together.  I would take offer to take her to a free clinic so she can get on the pill.  If it was my DD, I would be upset she didn't come to me, but I would be glad she had someone to turn to to assist her. I disagree with the Morning after pill being used as a back-up plan. it should really be used only for rape cases. If you are sexually active and not wanting to get pregnat, you should be on some form a birth control youself and not rely on condoms. I would speak to the young woman about other birth control options available for her. I know in my state my 13 year old can get birth control, morning after pill (with dr perscription), condoms, abortions without my concent or knowledge.  At her last chek-up I had her doctor speak to her regarding the privacy laws and what she has to tell me and what she can tell me if my DD concents and what she can not tell me if my DD states not too. I want my dd to know it is her body and her choice and though i would like to be there for her regardless, that is her choice too. I know so many young woman out there are not given the same respect from their parents and i would hope someone in their life will give them the support and assistance they need.


 

Anonymous
by Anonymous on Jun. 19, 2013 at 5:04 AM
Never. You don't know whether she's allergic to anything, whether her parents would KILL her or you for doing so. It's one of those better safe moments. Oh and I'd rather not get sued either way.
Anonymous
by Anonymous on Jun. 19, 2013 at 5:13 AM
I VOTED YES WITH PARENTAL PERMISSION. AFTER READING SOME POSTS I CHANGED MY TUNE AND WOULD DEFINITELY LOAN HER THE MONEY.
Anonymous
by Anonymous on Jun. 19, 2013 at 5:14 AM
I would be fn pissed if someone loaned my daughter and would try to bring a lawsuit. I don't agree with this free access to plan b. There r no long term research studies on plan b and it is a very high dose of hormones. If my teen came up wth the money herself nothing I can do but I would rather her come to me but if she didn't I can't do nothing about it but I sure as heck would raise hell if another parent was involved. And if she ended up pg n kept the baby then so what I would support her and help her realize her life isn't over bc as sur prising as it is....u can be a mother n go to school or work. Ppl do it all the time. Plus she would learn a good lesson and responsibility as I have done before. Its not ur place to get involved.
ali_1107
by Bronze Member on Jun. 19, 2013 at 5:35 AM

I would in a heartbeat- Rather that, then another pregnant teenager. I would stress the importance of protection (condoms and birth control). My goodness.

Rain2Rinse
by Gold Member on Jun. 19, 2013 at 5:39 AM
Nope. I don't make it a habit to parent others' children. I am pretty uninvolved/unavailable to to any child except my own, and a few nieces/cousins/nephews. And if they come to me with info like that, it is pretty much because they want me to tell their parents.
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Jamie1972
by Ruby Member on Jun. 19, 2013 at 5:43 AM

Only if I know the teen, either through my kids,my friends or famiky.

Anonymous
by Anonymous on Jun. 19, 2013 at 5:47 AM

In a heartbeat. Because she doesn't WANT a baby and Plan B is just hormonal birth control.

IF I didn't loan her the money, and she did get pregnant, then the other option for a Teen who doens't want a child is abortion...and how is that better? BIRTH CONTROL (even taken the day after) is preferable to abortion.


TheMetal
by on Jun. 19, 2013 at 5:50 AM

Another concern of mine is this.

Quoting Anonymous:

I would be fn pissed if someone loaned my daughter and would try to bring a lawsuit. I don't agree with this free access to plan b. There r no long term research studies on plan b and it is a very high dose of hormones. If my teen came up wth the money herself nothing I can do but I would rather her come to me but if she didn't I can't do nothing about it but I sure as heck would raise hell if another parent was involved. And if she ended up pg n kept the baby then so what I would support her and help her realize her life isn't over bc as sur prising as it is....u can be a mother n go to school or work. Ppl do it all the time. Plus she would learn a good lesson and responsibility as I have done before. Its not ur place to get involved.


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