I was talking to my ex SIL on Fb, when she again asked Me about my childhood. She always felt like there was something "off" but no one was talking. Anyway I finally decided that I would just talk to her. I was abused and raped for 5 years as a child by my older brother who was an adult at the time and later became her husband. She is now furious with me for not having told her because she "may" have had children with him and never known. While I can see her fear. They never did have any kids and they've been divorced about 12 years now. It seems like a moot point. And I don't know why she's asking if she didn't want to know. And why the heck was it my place to say something to her? OK sorry. Vent over. And now I'm logging out of fb so as not to continue a convo with her right now.
We talked a couple times in the last few weeks and I think she understands my position a little better now. She's actually been a help in processing some of it. Thank you ladies for being here when I needed to vent/talk.