I think DH would love me again if I was skinny again
So my DH and I have been married 6 years. Been together for 9 years. The first 2 years of our marriage we were fit and healthy. But after having two kids and taking on bad eating haibts, I've ended up close to 100lbs overweight. I'm tall and carry the weight well and though I would prefer to be skinny again I'm not uncomfortable with my weight. I still have confidence and energy.
DH also gained weight. He ended up gaining around 50lbs.
A couple weeks ago I found out that he was having an online affair. Said he was in love with another woman. That he no longer loved me and wanted to leave me. But she broke up with him and he stayed with me. Before I found out about the affair he started working out and dieting. I guess a new woman to impress was a good motivator. He's lost a lot of weight. And even though the affair is over he's still at it.
I'm happy for him. But his motivation scares me. And now that he is getting fit again I feel more and more like he's disinterested in me. Like he's still looking for someone new. Maybe that's all in my head. I don't know.
I'm trying my best to make him happy, to make him love me again. But I think if I'm going to keep him I will have to lose this weight. Part of me resents this. I want him to love me no matter what. Another part of me doesn't blame him and thinks I owe it to him. He did say once before we were married that he wouldn't love me if I ever got fat.
I don't think my weight was the reason he stopped loving me. We've had a lot of issues we are trying to work through now. But I think my weight will be an issue in keeping him.
I guess I'm just curious what you all thought about it.