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My biodad just emailed me.

Posted by Anonymous   + Show Post

Background:


Dad and Mom divorced around age 11. It was a very messy divorce. Dad was psychotic, possibly on drugs, had cameras hidden around the house, body guards he hired to follow him because he said my mom was trying to kill him and he was trying to get full custody.

My mother one full custody because my dad was a fucking lunatic and not safe to parent children. My mother could seriously never hurt a fly. Shes a sweetheart.

My dad was ordered to pay child support and alimony, and basically skipped town. He moved to hawaii. Hides his income. and refuses to pay child support. he pays sometimes but just very little so they dont come after him, but it took YEARS of my mom chasing his ass to get it lik ethat. and most the time he still doesnt pay it. he owes back childsupport still.

he never was there for me or my 3 brothers. my mom was a single mother to 4 kids. she made everything work. I love her. hes an asshole.

out of nowhere, he starts to message me on facebook. after years and years of no contact.

"I would like to come out and see you, what do you think?"


I think FUCK NO you psychopath.

I just asked him "why?" but what is going on?

the other day he called my mom and asked if they could just be friends and put the past behind him.

do you think hes dying or something?


Posted by Anonymous on Jun. 25, 2013 at 12:33 AM
Replies (11-15):
lilbit53009
by on Jun. 25, 2013 at 4:02 PM

i'd let him atleast explain (you don't have to see him). maybe he really had something wrong with his head and is now in a better place and wants to reach out to you guys

Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Jun. 25, 2013 at 4:04 PM

right. I dont trust him to even have our address. My identity was stolen a long time ago when I was still a child and my mother thinks it might have been him that stole it and took out a mortgage with my SSN


Quoting BKozICan:

Dh has a biodad like that. If he contacted one of us, we may meet with him, but there is no way he would be around out kids.



Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Jun. 25, 2013 at 4:10 PM

Oh ok, I guess I was confusing him with my family! Lol

Quoting Anonymous:


lol theres no way hes broke. he lives in a huge house in hawaii. he was at one point in time making 80k a month, hes been hiding from the IRS.

Quoting Anonymous:

He's broke and needs a place to stay and someone to take care of him. Be careful!




Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Jun. 25, 2013 at 4:13 PM


It completely baffles me why he thinks its ok to come out and see me, without even so much as an apology for being a shitty father. It is at the point I dont consider him my father. I consider my step dad my father and call him dad, my step dad has been the best dad ever to me. And this jerk thinks just cause I have a kid now he can pull this shit? I dont think so. I want at very least an apology before I will even speak to him.

Quoting lilbit53009:

i'd let him atleast explain (you don't have to see him). maybe he really had something wrong with his head and is now in a better place and wants to reach out to you guys



lilbit53009
by on Jun. 25, 2013 at 4:17 PM

yea i agree he should have said something else instead of "hey when can i come see you"

maybe you should write him a long letter to let him know how you feel...you might feel better to get it off your chest

Quoting Anonymous:


It completely baffles me why he thinks its ok to come out and see me, without even so much as an apology for being a shitty father. It is at the point I dont consider him my father. I consider my step dad my father and call him dad, my step dad has been the best dad ever to me. And this jerk thinks just cause I have a kid now he can pull this shit? I dont think so. I want at very least an apology before I will even speak to him.

Quoting lilbit53009:

i'd let him atleast explain (you don't have to see him). maybe he really had something wrong with his head and is now in a better place and wants to reach out to you guys




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