Here's an update(an exciting one)!
I bought a new (to me) 2002 Buick. its not super nice but its better than the 95 Ford I had.
I'm not living with SO, he's here once a week on avg so far. He's finishing the lease at the old house until November then Idk if he's moving in. I'm still a SAHM and SO pays the bills but that may change with time unless we do a 180°.
About the meetme site I found him on, that was small time shit compared to what I found on his tablet last week- emails to randoms on casual encounters from CL for sex. He didn't actually meet anyone but the intent was there so I guess we'll see.