My "SO" and I are at a crossroad with our relationship. We both say "we don't want anything serious" but it kind of evolved into that on its own.
At first just casually dating
soon after we were exclusively dating
A pregnancy scare, scared both of us but in that we broke down some walls
complete 180, the affection went up, the time spent was longer, the openness about feelings grew more, he met my child, and then when he met my child it changed again, he started pursuing his goals more actively, mentioning my child in his future, us as a family, etc etc
Again, we never said "we are together" but it sort of just evolved into that
So I let him know, I have really fallen for him and we should talk about a direction we are going in because the direction I want to go in is eventually I want to be with him, live with him, marry him, I know it won't happen now but I want to make sure that is eventually what he wants too.
Now he is refusing to talk on the phone about it
He is saying he wants to talk in person about it only because it will be quicker and better in person and that I shouldn't be scared to talk about it in person. I'd rather talk about it on the phone honestly because he and I both know, that if our directions aren't the same, we're over.
what do you think?