So many moms on here sound helpless when it comes to knowing what their own kids are up to. I have 12year old through 23 year old, I always knew what my kids were doing. Once they are adults of course thats their concern lol. But while they were under 18 Ikne where they were and who they were with and what they were doing. Its not hopeless lol. You can raise kids you can trust. Kids who aren't smoking , drugging,or having sex with everyone they meet. You just have to step up and parent. I keep hearing you can't stop this or that. Yes you can. I can honestly say I never lied to my Uncle who raised me because I respected and loved him to much to lie to him. So I was a pretty good teen. I have 5 teen agers right now and two in college. So I am not naive it is possible. I just think for some people the cop out is easier.
And no I am not supermom anyone can raise kids that they know what and who they are with, its a matter of whether they bother.