See what CafeMoms are saying about saving time this holiday season..
Don't give anything since that's how you feel
Give $100 or so just to keep the peace
Other, please specify
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Total Votes: 165
SIL and her DH are looking into starting the process to adopt a baby. They are wanting to adopt from China because her DH is Chinese.
Anyway, they have talked to the agency and found out that with everything, the adoption will likely cost about $25,000. They don't have that kind of money, they said they will need another $10,000 and they have to have it before they can even start the process.
They have decided to have a adoption donation party. I really don't want to go and I certainly don't want to give any money. The reason is, I think SIL would make a crappy mother. She doesn't like kids (mine or any of her friends kids), I mean I know you own kid is different but you would think if she really wanted to be a mom, she would at least be interested in her nieces and nephews. Also, she can't even take care of the various pets she has gotten and returned over the past few years.
Now, I know my opinion doesn't really matter, but I think that since they are asking for money, my opinion should dictate how much, if any I give.
DH said it is up to me what we give (he agrees with me about his sister). We are not hurting for money at all, in fact, we do very well. If I thought she would make a decent mother, I would probably say we should donate $2,000. However, to keep the peace, I am thinking about giving $100 or so. I am sure it is way less then she expects from us, since DH does make a very good income, but the way I figure, if we give SOMETHING, they can't complain or make a fuss that we aren't being supportive.