Up all night worried sick, long, my sister could have been shot last night.
My sister called me at almost midnight last night, I had just turned off the light. And I didnt sleep very well after I finally got off the phone with her
She had the day from hell yesterday. Her boyfriend, and father of her one month old son, was taken to jail for aggravated assault, felonious restraint and probably more since he pulled a gun on her IN FRONT OF A POLICE OFFICER (he didnt know the officer was there when he did it, a neighbor had called the police and when no one answered the door they went around back and saw them through the bedroom window.)
Now she is stuck out there, across the country from any of her family and friends, with his family (who apparently has been protecting him and making sure she hasnt called to police on him the other dozens of times he's beat her since FEBRUARY) and my two nephews (she has a 2 yo from a previous relationship.)
She's been advised not to come home until everything has been taken care of (because the officers witnessed some of the assault and the gun she doesnt have a choice in whether charges are pressed and pursued) and I am so worried about her. A restraining order is just a piece of paper, and when he gets bailed out what is stopping him from going and killing her. And probably my nephews too because guess what he was doing before he started beating on her.... Blowing in his infant's face til he couldnt breathe because he was pissed off that the INFANT had kept him up all night. The police confinscated all the weapons in the home but his dad has all kinds of guns.
I told her to get her ass to a shelter, because her apartment isnt safe... And I told her that just because she was told to stay around doesnt mean that the boys had to and to send them home, there is plenty of family willing to take them in if she feels they arent safe with her... And Im especially worried for the baby, if she doesnt get 100% custody for some reason... poor thing has to grow up (if he's lucky) with the asshole and my sister has to coparent with him.
Ugh, I just want to fly out there and play momma bear to my little sister and my innocent nephews... but it isnt my fight to fight, and I've got my own kids to worry about without getting involved with a bunch of violent rednecks. I just get to sit on the sidelines and offer support.
And I told her "this is the meanest thing i will ever say to you, but if you take him back, if you stay out there with him when this is over. I will make sure those boys end up somewhere safe and you will be dead to me. I will have my own little private funeral for you and be done with you because I wont worry and wait for him to kill you. I love you and will help you every step of the way, but you almost DIED, and if he's already at *that* level of abuse, there will be no stopping him next time"
I know it was horrible of me, but I wont do it.