Today I kicked my daughter who is pregnant out of my house. This is her second pregnancy \. The first pregnancy she was 16. She came to me and we sat down and had a heart to heart. She told me she was pregnant we talked about her options. I told her that if she wanted to have the baby she would have to step up and get a job to help out with expenses and she would have to stay in school and graduate either earlier or with her class and that if she got pregnant again she was out of here. She agreed that that was what she wanted to do. I watched her daughter while she went to school and worked. Everything was going good. She graduated last year with her class. She is working now and hoping to move out to her own place. She has a new bf that I do not like that much but I try to remain civil with him. Well she just told me this morning that she was pregnant. I told her she needed to pack up her things and leave. I gave her 3 days. She freaked out at me and tried to get physical with me. I told her she needed to get out TODAY and so she left she told me she was done with this family and that she was starting "her" family with her bf. I didn't know what to say to that so I just stood there. She got up, grabbed her computer and phone and left. She left without her daughter. She texted me later that there was no reason for her to come back to the house and that I could keep all of her things. I guess her daughter is part of "this" family and not "her" family
I am so devestated. She has a good enough paying job to get her own apartment. She hasn't already because it would be too much of a hassle to drive from her apartment to my house to let me watch her baby. She knew that if she got pregnant again that she would have to find another place. I can understand one "mistake" (not that her daughter is a mistake) but another is not okay and she knows that. I was willing to do whatever it took to help her with her daughter as long as she was preventing more children. I did not want to end up the grandma taking care of 4 children while my daughter still did nothing with her life. I can't help but feel like she did this on purpose for me to kick her out and for her to leave her daughter here.
I just do not know what to do. I can't believe she just left my granddaughter here. She is 2.5 now and knows when her mom is gone. I just can not believe this is happening. I felt she had come a long way she is 19 now and doing well in college and saving money for what I thought would be her and her daughters future.
UPDATE: I have talked to my daughter. She found an apartment the day I kicked her out. She came back to get her stuff but we talked about me taking over custody of her daughter. She says she is not in a place to raise her right now. She didn't know how else to tell me she needed my help. I do not even think she is actually pregnant. Our conversation yesterday was short and brief she just needed some clothes. We are going to have a long sit down tonight and talk and see what exactly is going on. Thanks for all the support on here guys.
Update 2; We were going to meet at my DDs favorite restaurant to talk. I went there and got a table. I waited for an hour and she never showed up. I tried calling and she ignored my calls. I texted her asking her what happened and she said she was at her place instead. I know which building she lives in but not which number so I can't go looking for her. I told her we could meet at the same time tomorrow but I havent got a response.