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how tacky.....

Posted by Anonymous   + Show Post

i just got an invite to my nephews wedding,at the bottom it says "as a gift bring a new covered dish that the couple can wash and reuse"....a pot luck.....and they want everyone to buy a new dish (baking dish,casserole dish,crock pot etc) and after the wedding they will wash it(most likely my sister will wash them) and use it in their new place. they cant even afford catering for 45 people......or in the very least make the food themselves....smh.....if this wedding were up to my nephew he'd get it catered by a chinese food place not ask everyone to bring a dish......

Posted by Anonymous on Jun. 28, 2013 at 3:59 PM
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xtiffcokex
by Member on Jun. 28, 2013 at 11:13 PM

that actually sounds interesting and pretty creative to me... perhaps because i have seen firsthand how much catered food goes completely to waste and the amount of money my parents wasted on food people didnt eat.

Anonymous
by Anonymous on Jun. 28, 2013 at 11:14 PM
Trite sayings are just that.


Quoting elitish:

You know what they say. The bigger the wedding, the quicker the divorce.




Quoting Anonymous:

No, the rising trend is due to people being cheap.






Quoting elitish:

Doesn't need to be. Their rising trend is due to old customs. Not people being tacky for no reason.








Quoting Anonymous:

Is OP's nephew Quaker?










Quoting elitish:

Sigh.

From the leading wedding website in America (SMH!):

A.

Although they're probably not the norm where you live, potluck wedding receptions




are actually customary in some countries and cultures (like in the




Quaker tradition), where the women of the community come together to




help prepare the wedding feast. Some wedding guests will inevitably be




put off if they're asked to bring food to a wedding reception. To ease




the situation, tell out-of-towners they shouldn't feel obligated to




bring a dish, and let the locals know the dish is in lieu of a wedding




gift. Request that they prepare one of their favorite family delicacies,




then ask them to give you the recipe so you can make them part of your




newlywed repertoire. (Don't worry, most people will still bring you




wedding gifts, but you'll look gracious for not soliciting them!)







Anonymous
by Anonymous on Jun. 28, 2013 at 11:15 PM
We obviously know very different people.


Quoting elitish:

Um maybe in 1985. Not anymore.




Quoting Anonymous:

Honeymoons are paid for long before the wedding happens.






Quoting elitish:

Yep. By bringing an envelope with cash. Where have you been the last 10 years?








Quoting Anonymous:

Guests fund the honeymoon?










Quoting elitish:

As opposed to asking guests to fund the honeymoon, which no one really needs?












Quoting Anonymous:

Yes, I certainly do say. Why are you asking your "guests" to fund your wedding?














Quoting Anonymous:

Lol whatever you say...

Quoting Anonymous:

""There will be a potluck dinner held after the ceremony. If you would like to bring a dish, you are more than welcome to. It is not a requirement.""















Further proof that etiquette is dead.
















FullMoonFever
by Gold Member on Jun. 28, 2013 at 11:18 PM

Sounds ok to me.I guess this pot luck thing is becoming the new trend for weddings.Doesn't bother me at all how a couple want to do their wedding.It would be funny though if they end up with 40 crock pots!!

rfhsure
by beast mode on Jun. 28, 2013 at 11:21 PM

i dont see the big deal. I think its a neat idea.

elitish
by on Jun. 28, 2013 at 11:24 PM
Obviously. Thank goodness too. I went to a traditional wedding recently and it was the worst shit ever.


Quoting Anonymous:

We obviously know very different people.




Quoting elitish:

Um maybe in 1985. Not anymore.






Quoting Anonymous:

Honeymoons are paid for long before the wedding happens.








Quoting elitish:

Yep. By bringing an envelope with cash. Where have you been the last 10 years?










Quoting Anonymous:

Guests fund the honeymoon?












Quoting elitish:

As opposed to asking guests to fund the honeymoon, which no one really needs?














Quoting Anonymous:

Yes, I certainly do say. Why are you asking your "guests" to fund your wedding?
















Quoting Anonymous:

Lol whatever you say...

Quoting Anonymous:

""There will be a potluck dinner held after the ceremony. If you would like to bring a dish, you are more than welcome to. It is not a requirement.""

















Further proof that etiquette is dead.


















Anonymous
by Anonymous on Jun. 28, 2013 at 11:30 PM
Great idea for 45 people. No need for formal money wasting expensive wedding. An informal down home get to know each other affair. Couple walks away with at least 20 new cookware and such.
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