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would this concern you? or do you think it's just him being stubborn?

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My 3 year old threw up tonight at dinner.

He was eating, took a drink to swallow his food and then threw up.

He rarely eats, unless it's junk food like cookies, cake, ice cream, popsicles, etc. If its real food he looks at it, sometimes takes a bite and then says he is full.

Tonight was a whole new level. He was sitting there at the table, looked at his food and said he was full and wanted a cupcake. We told him that he could have a cupcake if he finished his dinner. He tried, but didn't make it.
He made it five little bites in, took a drink gagged, took another drink and threw up.

Would this concern you? Or do you think it's just him being stubborn?
by on Jun. 29, 2013 at 9:39 PM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 3 on Jun. 29, 2013 at 10:17 PM

It's a ploy. 

Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 on Jun. 29, 2013 at 10:18 PM
Lol just saying!


I would find out why is he throwing up from a doctor and get it fixed. They might make something to calm his stomach.

Quoting blue_elephant:

Uh, how do you control it? Last I checked I have no control over my sons bodily functions...just sayin ;)



Quoting Anonymous:

Who let's their kid throw up.





Quoting blue_elephant:

It is...







Quoting Anonymous:

That is strange.
momtolittleg
by Platinum Member on Jun. 29, 2013 at 10:19 PM
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You've got some serious food issues in your house, with a raider and a puker. If he's getting junk at grandma's you're gonna have to stop that until you get him back on track.   How often is he at grandma's?

Quoting blue_elephant:

We do the take it or leave it rule, never any exceptions. They don't want to eat, that's fine but they aren't getting anything else to eat. He is not bothered by this rule.

We rarely have junk food in the house, when he goes to my moms its jUnk food non stop, whenever they point they get. But not at home.

I'm at a loss, I've tried everything and nothing works...

And my cupboards, fridge, pantry, and anywhere else food is, is locked because my 5 year old raids everything, so my 3 year old can't be stealing food, because it's all locked up...



Quoting LilliesValley:



He must be getting it more than you think then. have you discussed with his doc about it? I'd let him be full but if need be, nothing in between meals. Eventually he will get hungry. Make sure he's not sneaking food too. My bil had a problem with their oldest to the point they had to lock food up. Food at meals until he starts eating at meals routinely. Keep a food diary for him and take it to the doc in a few weeks. he may have some sort of sensitivity or texture issue but mltn he's just a kid wanting sweets. He thinks you won't lt him go hungry or starve or follow through. Show him differently. Everyone who comes to the house will need to know not to feed him though in between meals and that sort of thing. It's probably not a eating disorder or texture issue at this point but more so a battle of wills. He wants to be in control. We have two choices for dinner, take it or leave it. If you don't take it then you wait until the next meal normally (I've had an exception or two at times where the plate will go in the fridge, but again it doesn't get heated up then). probably just need to come down on him really hard and quick. But you want to get it under control because you don't want it to develop into a food disorder or something. Best of luck.


Quoting blue_elephant:

We generally don't have junk in the house, but my birthday was Tuesday, so we had cake, my mom brought over cupcakes, and kids and I baked cookies and cinnamon rolls, because my older kids were bummed because their dad didn't want to take them.

I'm just at a loss, this kid will not eat, I've tried giving him his food for breakfast, lunch, and dinner if he didn't eat it the night before. He will say he is full every time.

I'm not sure how this child is still alive, in complete honesty. He weighs 31 pounds and has weighed that since he was 2. I don't get it...



Quoting LilliesValley:


Umm I think until he was eating regular food properly he'd be completely out of luck for cookies, icecream and whatever other junk was around. He won't starve and if he's taking everything to a whole new level of throwing up from regular food he could be on his way to an eating disorder. Regular meals with healthy snack in between for a week or two and then the occassional treat. Moderation is the key. Missing one or two meals won't kill him, and if you have to, save his dinner plate in the fridge (although I don't reheat food then, you get it cold). You need to get him to start eating regular food routinely without complaint or reward and then worry about adding/giving junk.







LilliesValley
by on Jun. 29, 2013 at 10:20 PM

 

Then I'd make a doctor's appointment for tow to three weeks out from monday. Then keep a food journal for 2-3 weeks and take it with you. And mom would have to change what she's doing or he wouldn't be going there. If there is a medical problem you need everyone on board. Does he go to your mom's often? Maybe that's part of the problem. I mean if he's eating two bites at a meal for two or three days and that's all he's eating then something is really wrong. But if he's getting snacks and more treats (even at grandma's) then that may be part of the answer. Maybe no grandma's for two weeks while you journal and see if he improves and then docotor's visit.

Quoting blue_elephant:

We do the take it or leave it rule, never any exceptions. They don't want to eat, that's fine but they aren't getting anything else to eat. He is not bothered by this rule.

We rarely have junk food in the house, when he goes to my moms its jUnk food non stop, whenever they point they get. But not at home.

I'm at a loss, I've tried everything and nothing works...

And my cupboards, fridge, pantry, and anywhere else food is, is locked because my 5 year old raids everything, so my 3 year old can't be stealing food, because it's all locked up...



Quoting LilliesValley:

 


He must be getting it more than you think then. have you discussed with his doc about it? I'd let him be full but if need be, nothing in between meals. Eventually he will get hungry. Make sure he's not sneaking food too. My bil had a problem with their oldest to the point they had to lock food up. Food at meals until he starts eating at meals routinely. Keep a food diary for him and take it to the doc in a few weeks. he may have some sort of sensitivity or texture issue but mltn he's just a kid wanting sweets. He thinks you won't lt him go hungry or starve or follow through. Show him differently. Everyone who comes to the house will need to know not to feed him though in between meals and that sort of thing. It's probably not a eating disorder or texture issue at this point but more so a battle of wills. He wants to be in control. We have two choices for dinner, take it or leave it. If you don't take it then you wait until the next meal normally (I've had an exception or two at times where the plate will go in the fridge, but again it doesn't get heated up then). probably just need to come down on him really hard and quick. But you want to get it under control because you don't want it to develop into a food disorder or something. Best of luck.


Quoting blue_elephant:

We generally don't have junk in the house, but my birthday was Tuesday, so we had cake, my mom brought over cupcakes, and kids and I baked cookies and cinnamon rolls, because my older kids were bummed because their dad didn't want to take them.

I'm just at a loss, this kid will not eat, I've tried giving him his food for breakfast, lunch, and dinner if he didn't eat it the night before. He will say he is full every time.

I'm not sure how this child is still alive, in complete honesty. He weighs 31 pounds and has weighed that since he was 2. I don't get it...



Quoting LilliesValley:


Umm I think until he was eating regular food properly he'd be completely out of luck for cookies, icecream and whatever other junk was around. He won't starve and if he's taking everything to a whole new level of throwing up from regular food he could be on his way to an eating disorder. Regular meals with healthy snack in between for a week or two and then the occassional treat. Moderation is the key. Missing one or two meals won't kill him, and if you have to, save his dinner plate in the fridge (although I don't reheat food then, you get it cold). You need to get him to start eating regular food routinely without complaint or reward and then worry about adding/giving junk.


 


 


 

Anonymous
by Anonymous 4 on Jun. 29, 2013 at 10:23 PM
At only 3 yrs old.. he got the taste for junk food somewhere!
I have 3 boys that I started from the beginning only eating good foods. My youngest has the ttendency to like sweets more than the other 2 but he will not get them unless he eats his wholesome meals first.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 4 on Jun. 29, 2013 at 10:27 PM
I think the answer is right in your reply here.
How often are they at your mother's?

Quoting blue_elephant:

We do the take it or leave it rule, never any exceptions. They don't want to eat, that's fine but they aren't getting anything else to eat. He is not bothered by this rule.



We rarely have junk food in the house, when he goes to my moms its jUnk food non stop, whenever they point they get. But not at home.



I'm at a loss, I've tried everything and nothing works...



And my cupboards, fridge, pantry, and anywhere else food is, is locked because my 5 year old raids everything, so my 3 year old can't be stealing food, because it's all locked up...







Quoting LilliesValley:

 



He must be getting it more than you think then. have you discussed with his doc about it? I'd let him be full but if need be, nothing in between meals. Eventually he will get hungry. Make sure he's not sneaking food too. My bil had a problem with their oldest to the point they had to lock food up. Food at meals until he starts eating at meals routinely. Keep a food diary for him and take it to the doc in a few weeks. he may have some sort of sensitivity or texture issue but mltn he's just a kid wanting sweets. He thinks you won't lt him go hungry or starve or follow through. Show him differently. Everyone who comes to the house will need to know not to feed him though in between meals and that sort of thing. It's probably not a eating disorder or texture issue at this point but more so a battle of wills. He wants to be in control. We have two choices for dinner, take it or leave it. If you don't take it then you wait until the next meal normally (I've had an exception or two at times where the plate will go in the fridge, but again it doesn't get heated up then). probably just need to come down on him really hard and quick. But you want to get it under control because you don't want it to develop into a food disorder or something. Best of luck.



Quoting blue_elephant:

We generally don't have junk in the house, but my birthday was Tuesday, so we had cake, my mom brought over cupcakes, and kids and I baked cookies and cinnamon rolls, because my older kids were bummed because their dad didn't want to take them.

I'm just at a loss, this kid will not eat, I've tried giving him his food for breakfast, lunch, and dinner if he didn't eat it the night before. He will say he is full every time.

I'm not sure how this child is still alive, in complete honesty. He weighs 31 pounds and has weighed that since he was 2. I don't get it...




Quoting LilliesValley:



Umm I think until he was eating regular food properly he'd be completely out of luck for cookies, icecream and whatever other junk was around. He won't starve and if he's taking everything to a whole new level of throwing up from regular food he could be on his way to an eating disorder. Regular meals with healthy snack in between for a week or two and then the occassional treat. Moderation is the key. Missing one or two meals won't kill him, and if you have to, save his dinner plate in the fridge (although I don't reheat food then, you get it cold). You need to get him to start eating regular food routinely without complaint or reward and then worry about adding/giving junk.






 

2nthensome
by on Jun. 29, 2013 at 10:29 PM
My daughter is like that. She knows if she doesn't eat what I put in front of her, she gets no treats. Don't give him treats or junk and he'll learn.


Quoting blue_elephant:

He asked for a cupcake after he threw up, but that doesn't really help, since he'll eat junk food as often as he can get it...



Quoting anotherhalf:

Ask him if he wants a cupcake now.  Then you'll know.


Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Jun. 29, 2013 at 11:10 PM
You're allowing your mother to fill him up with sweets which is causing his eating issues. He wants sweets, nothing but sweets so you need to put a stop to it. Not only is he missing out in the NECESSARY nutrition he needs but his teeth are coated in sugar which will cause problems over time even with a good teeth brushing routine.
Stop all sweets and be creative with your foods. Carrots are sweet tasting cut those into cubes or strings and those can be his sweet snacks. In another reply I said my son is not a good eater, he just isn't, we didn't have the sweets battle but we had a food battle. I got creative, for example, ckn is monster bites, green beans are Dino bites etc. When he eats he is the monster eating all his monster bites or a dinosaur eating his leaves, sandwiches are cut into shapes, food is served in fun things ....... whatever we find that works we do it. He has a big godzilla looking toy that also eats with him, a bite for him and a bite for godzilla. We also sneak in as much nutrition so when he eats less he is still getting as much nutrition as he can. There are lots of recipes online to sneak veggies in to foods.

Quoting blue_elephant:

We haven't seen a nutritionist, his pedi said that he's just picky and to keep trying...



Quoting Anonymous:

What does his pedi say? My ds doesn't eat well at all so he's been on a special diet since he was an infant. We have to get creative with food and getting him to eat it. We don't have junk food in the house, his "cookies" are crackers.


You may have to do the same. I'm sure he's been referred to a nutritionist, what have they said. Have they told you how to dress up his food or create an experience where he thinks he's eating junk food or how to shove as much nutrition in the foods he will eat?





Quoting blue_elephant:

We generally don't have junk in the house, but my birthday was Tuesday, so we had cake, my mom brought over cupcakes, and kids and I baked cookies and cinnamon rolls, because my older kids were bummed because their dad didn't want to take them.







I'm just at a loss, this kid will not eat, I've tried giving him his food for breakfast, lunch, and dinner if he didn't eat it the night before. He will say he is full every time.







I'm not sure how this child is still alive, in complete honesty. He weighs 31 pounds and has weighed that since he was 2. I don't get it...








Quoting LilliesValley:

Umm I think until he was eating regular food properly he'd be completely out of luck for cookies, icecream and whatever other junk was around. He won't starve and if he's taking everything to a whole new level of throwing up from regular food he could be on his way to an eating disorder. Regular meals with healthy snack in between for a week or two and then the occassional treat. Moderation is the key. Missing one or two meals won't kill him, and if you have to, save his dinner plate in the fridge (although I don't reheat food then, you get it cold). You need to get him to start eating regular food routinely without complaint or reward and then worry about adding/giving junk.

blue_elephant
by on Jun. 30, 2013 at 1:21 PM
We had smoked pork shoulder roast and mashed potatoes. Compared to what he will eat, it wasn't junk food. And maybe it is...

Quoting Mamabear010:




Quoting blue_elephant:

It was stomach emptying, out of control vomit.



Quoting Mamabear010:

Are we talking a lot of throw up, like emptied his stomach or just a little bit enough to make you wonder. If it was out of control, stomach emptying throw up. I would think it was a texture issue. However, if it was the other. He is probably manipulating you and it may be time to cut out all junk foods.

Then he may not be faking. What did you feed him? Did have a weird texture compared to what he will eat? I think the PP may be right, it may be time to get him checked out by a specialist. He could have sensory or other eating problems.


blue_elephant
by on Jun. 30, 2013 at 1:23 PM
Because he eats cereal, corn dogs, and pb&j's...

Quoting momtolittleg:


Well, you said he doesn't eat unless it is junk food. So if he isn't getting junk and he won't eat regular food, how is he still alive and not emaciated?


Quoting blue_elephant:

How is he manipulating me if he doesn't get it?



Occasionally I'll give them a cookie for good behavior, but that isn't often.



He doesn't get offered junk food often and when he does its for a reward for something.



I don't understand how he is being manipulative if he isn't getting what he wants. If he refuses to eat, he goes to bed hungry, I don't make him something else and he doesn't get a treat, so I don't get it...




Quoting momtolittleg:

Since he can eat junk food with no problems, I say he's manipulating you. I'd talk to his doc about doing some kind of food intervention- that does not involve ANY kind of junk food. You'd probably have to out-manipulate him. But definitely talk to the doc first. 




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