Nothing she does is ever good enough for them. She's not in school, but she has a full time job that has benefits. She doesn't have a car, or her license, but she's saving for both. She's also saving for her own place. When she came to her parents, and told them that she wanted to go to school for fashion design, and had been looking into some programs, her parents pretty much laughed in her face. She's an artsy free spirit type, and her parents want her to be a lawyer or doctor.
Don't get wrong, she's intelligent, and would make a damn good lawyer. But, that's not what she wants to do with her life. She dreams of being a fashion designer, and owning her own speciality boutique one day. But, that's not good enough for them.
Her parents are also very religious. While she describes herself as a Theist, she's not religious. She's the girl that marks the "Spiritual but not religious" box on a dating profile. Lol But, that's not good enough for her folks. She needs to be "saved," and a raging homophobic bigot like them.
I don't get it. I know that as parents, we want our kids to do their best. But, what ever happened to being supportive? Her parents knock down her dreams, and we self esteem has taken a huge hit. I feel so badly for her. I don't know what to do other than be supportive. But, I know that my support isn't the same as having her parents' support.
In response to her not living the way they think she should live (religious beliefs included), her parents have put a parental lock on the TV, and a parental block ok the computer. When she told me that, I was shocked. How childish of them. So, her response is that when she finally moved away, she may never talk to them again.
I'd let them (my friend and her son) come stay with me if I had the room.
I just don't know what to say to her. Her parents are so mean to her. I don't get it.
EDIT: Some of you can't read. She doesn't live off of her parents. She has a job and she pays them rent. Her parents don't support her emotionally. That's what she wants...emotional support.
Also, my friend is NOT a loser. She takes care of her son on her own, and has done so without any financial help from anyone.
I don't see the problem with wanting your parents emotional support.