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Judge Me If You Must, But Check Your Imperfections At The Door First

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We just moved over 1000 miles from home. So I have no sitters, there are no drop in daycare centers, DH works from pretty early in the AM til the evening, I have no family nearby to help me.  My oldest DS is 12.  He is amazing with his baby sister, very protective. 

Last week we went to town (25 mile drive one way) to run errands.  DD fell asleep (she is 2.5).  I had one last errand to run that I couldn't just do the next day, or later in the afternoon, since the drive is so long.  We are in temp housing til our house sells so it isn't exactly ideal.  I had planned to go to Target.  We needed laundry detergent, and some more laundry baskets.  We were completely out, and the mountain was growing.  DH was going to be working late. 

My DD is a temper tantrum thrower, my boys (both much older than her) never threw tantrums.  She ALWAYS throws tantrums in the store.  It's inevitable. But to wake her and take her into a store?  Well you may as well start world war 3.  So I found the nearest Dollar Store.  Pulled into a parking space at the very front, told DS to text me from his phone if need be, locked the doors, air on, windows up, emergency brake on, DS sitting in the front seat so it didn't look like an empty car just sitting there running.  I ran inside, bee lined for the laundry aisle, got what I needed and got in line and waited.  I could see my car and children clearly from where I was.  All was good. Not even 5 minutes had passed.

Enter Crazy Lady...  This very loud lady with her child (he appeared to be about 8) comes barreling in the store. She is screaming at the top of her lungs "OH MY GOD SOMEONE LEFT THEIR SMALL KIDS ALONE IN A CAR OUT THERE. WHOSE CAR IS THAT???????  THERE IS A BABY ALONE IN THAT CAR, THERE ARE CHILDREN LOCKED IN THAT HOT CAR"  She continues, and it took me a minute to realize that she was talking about me, because 1) I have a 35" tall toddler, and a 12 year old.  2) The car was running and the air was on and 3) well I don't consider 12 being small. 

I tried to assure her that my DS was nearly a teenager and quite capable of keeping his sleeping sister for a few moments and she just became louder and more irate.  She called me a liar and a negligent mother.

Now... According to the American Red Cross. children as young as 11 can become certified babysitters.  There is a program in the town we live in for "junior life guarders" and it starts at 11 yrs old.  At church children the age of 12 can volunteer in the nursery. 

I wasn't in Wal-Mart, Target or a bar.  I wasn't goofing off. I was in and out in less than 10 minutes (which would have been less had she not caused the entire store to freak out and stop working for a few minutes.)

She ended up calling the cops, I told her to write down my tag number as I pulled out and they could come to my house and question me, but I wouldn't allow her to upset my kids.  Since clearly she didn't care if she was upsetting her own child, why would she care if she upset mine? 

I got to my car, DD was still snoozing, DS unlocked the door, crawled in the back, buckled up and not a word was mentioned.  I gave him some cookies that I had snagged at the front for being such a responsible helper with his sister, and I never heard another word about it. 

So....  Has your older DS or DD watched your youngers for you?  Did this lady over react?  Or am I truly negligent and just don't realze it?

 

Posted by Anonymous on Jul. 1, 2013 at 2:14 PM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Jul. 1, 2013 at 2:39 PM
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 He is pretty responsible, and is what I call a "rule nazi"  It's almost OCD he is so particular about following rules. Now my other DS?  Not a snowballs chance in the south Georgia summertime. 


Quoting j3st3r:

 

IDK if I would have left the car on with a 12 y/o.  Your son might be different but  I would be afraid that mine would try to drive the car. 

Quoting Anonymous:

Car was on, air on, windows up, doors locked
Quoting j3st3r:

if he can be at home alone with her while you go to the store, IDK why being in the car is worse.  If it wasn't too hot, that is...


 

 


 

CorpCityGrl
by Platinum Member on Jul. 1, 2013 at 2:39 PM

I only have 1, so she goes with me everywhere.

When I was a kid though, I used to do what your DS did.  I'm 8 years older than my brother and some times I would sit in the car for 10 minutes while my mom or dad quickly ran into the store. 

pinkysmommy720
by Silver Member on Jul. 1, 2013 at 2:39 PM
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 LOL...You do realize that dollar stores sell Tide, Cheer, Gain, etc?

Quoting ThatSkinnyGirl:

Only problem I see is that your laundry soap is gonna suck. I hate dollar store laundry soap. It's all watery.

=)

 

kaysha
by Ruby Member on Jul. 1, 2013 at 2:40 PM

She was out of line, because you didn't do anything wrong or harmful. 

Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Jul. 1, 2013 at 2:41 PM

Malfunction as in?   


Quoting Anonymous:

Quoting autodidact:




Yes I am aware the ac was on but there might be a complication and can malfunction...


 

HeartStrings222
by Bronze Member on Jul. 1, 2013 at 2:42 PM

I have started to do this recently.  I have a 12 yr old and an 18 month old. If I need to run into a store to get something really quickly, I will sometimes leave them in the car with the AC and emergency brake on. I only do this every once in a while like when the baby has fallen asleep or something. 

Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Jul. 1, 2013 at 2:43 PM

 

lol, I was able to get Tide, but the stain remover smelled of ammonia. Honeslty I was in such a rush I just grabbed and went.

Quoting pinkysmommy720:

 LOL...You do realize that dollar stores sell Tide, Cheer, Gain, etc?

Quoting ThatSkinnyGirl:

Only problem I see is that your laundry soap is gonna suck. I hate dollar store laundry soap. It's all watery.

=)

 


 

autodidact
by Snarknado on Jul. 1, 2013 at 2:43 PM
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he also had a cell phone to call his mom. yeah, I know, it COULD have malfunctioned. 

things always COULD happen. there COULD be an armed robbery in the store and everyone could wind up getting shot, in which case her kids are better off in the car. 

her kids COULD stay there safely until she comes out, and someone could stick a gun in the mom's face two blocks away as they drive home and pull her out of the car and drive off with her kids. 

or they COULD all get home safely and be victims of a home invasion an hour later. 

Quoting Anonymous:

Quoting autodidact:




Yes I am aware the ac was on but there might be a complication and can malfunction...



Autodidact, Unrepentant Heathen

3_girls_86
by Ruby Member on Jul. 1, 2013 at 2:44 PM
We were left at home earlier that 12 years old! That lady is crazy!! My oldest is 7 so I haven't left any of mine in the car to go into a store. But I really don't see anything wrong with what you did.
ThatSkinnyGirl
by FAT on Jul. 1, 2013 at 2:45 PM
No. I have never seen name brand laundry soap at my dollar store. =(

Quoting pinkysmommy720:

 LOL...You do realize that dollar stores sell Tide, Cheer, Gain, etc?


Quoting ThatSkinnyGirl:

Only problem I see is that your laundry soap is gonna suck. I hate dollar store laundry soap. It's all watery.

=)

 

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