my 18 yr old moved in with her secret boy friend .......really need advise !.....update to answer everyone. Went to visit and guess what !
im done crying now i need advise how to handle this , a week ago my 18 yr old showed up with her 22 yr old boyfriend weve never met , announced they were in love and she was moving in with him immediatly , i was stunned needless to say . Ive been asked if we had had a fight or something , no the only thing i asked was for her to get a job to help pay her car insurance . after moving out she wont speak to any of her family she will speak breifly on facebook but if you ask a question she wont answer , this is not like her at all , my mommy sensees are screaming something is wrong . how would you handle this ? i have to go to work now and will read answers when i come home .
thankyou everyone for your repsonses, i will try to calm down and back off and wait for her , a backround check is a great idea , her best friend has met him and says she thinks hes a great guy , but dd was afraid we wouldnt like the age differance , she also thinks we are to controling by still having a cerfew for her and asking her to get a job to help pay her portion of the bills , i really didnt think its being controling , after all i had a cerfew until i moved out and got married lol ! But on a good note she invited me to stop by wendsday night and see her new place , maybeits a good thing atleast ill be able to see if hes got my baby locked in a dungeon or ssomething's
guess what went for a visit ! Yay ! The bf still lives with his parents ! I met them both , I tried not to like them but I really did , we got to talking I explained what happened and that I've never even met the son , dad hit the roof that his son was so disrespectful and we decided we need to all sit down next weekend all parents and the two kids and have a big meeting on the issue , I couldn't agree more , and yes I didn't stay long and didn't give the kids any grief but I have to admit I'm kinda happy that there are some real adults in the house but I got a lot of questions that need answered and so do the other parents now . For starters what kinda twit takes his girlfriend to go live with mommy and daddy