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My little boy died, and now I'm having a new baby. Help?

Anonymous
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Posting anonymously to keep people from knowing who I am through my kids that have passed away. 

My two kids were killed in 2008. I remarried in 2012, and now I'm 6 months pregnant with a little boy. Would it be appropriate to put my dead son's first name as one of my baby's middle names? I just need some insight because it seems like nobody else in my real life knows what to say to me about this. I only want to memorialize my lost son, not replace him. :(

EDIT: My son and daughter were murdered by their father/my ex-husband. No, I will not confirm who my kids were or who my ex-husband is. 

Posted by Anonymous on Jul. 2, 2013 at 2:17 PM
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livingrlovesong
by Silver Member on Jul. 2, 2013 at 2:19 PM
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I dont see anything wrong with it. A middle name is different. I'm so sorry about your loss :(
jenC1978
by on Jul. 2, 2013 at 2:19 PM

I'm so sorry for your loss.  Of course it's ok to do that.  Good luck to you.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Jul. 2, 2013 at 2:19 PM
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If it gives you peace, than fuck what's appropriate. Sorry for your loss, congratulations on new life.
aphrodite7400
by Silver Member on Jul. 2, 2013 at 2:19 PM

i think thats a very nice thing to do.  

edit- the original post did not say how the kids died.  she added that after.... 

MrsDavidB25
by Stacey on Jul. 2, 2013 at 2:19 PM

 I think it would be a wonderful way to remember your 1st son. Sorry for your loss.

Allons-y
by Rose Tyler on Jul. 2, 2013 at 2:20 PM
I wouldn't find giving him your sons first name or middle name appropriate but I don't see anything wrong with using the first name as a middle. Seems more of an honor.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 3 on Jul. 2, 2013 at 2:20 PM

It would be alright to, if you can handle it. I'm so sorry for your loss. HUGS

Anonymous
by Anonymous 4 on Jul. 2, 2013 at 2:20 PM
Go for it! It would be a nice tribute
Anonymous
by Anonymous 5 on Jul. 2, 2013 at 2:20 PM
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I personally wouldn't do it. That name would be sacred to me and never used again.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 6 on Jul. 2, 2013 at 2:20 PM

I think that's a beautiful idea. I'm so sorry for your loss. 

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