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Mommy Scenario #5

Anonymous
Posted by Anonymous
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You are the mom to 16 year old twin girls.  Both want to date.  One is uber responsible, mature, and trustworthy.  The other...not so much....more rebellious and not so responsible or trustworthy.

 

Do you let one date and not the other?

Posted by Anonymous on Jul. 2, 2013 at 4:24 PM
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PinkHart
by on Jul. 2, 2013 at 4:25 PM
No
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Roxygurl
by Emerald Member on Jul. 2, 2013 at 4:26 PM
Nope. Both or none.
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jojo_star
by on Jul. 2, 2013 at 4:27 PM

Yup. We set rules for dating on a child by child basis, if we don't think they are mature enough, they don't get to date. If we think they are, they are allowed to. So far, the only two of my children who want to date, are both responsible and mature, so we don't have any problems. 

KaylinC03
by Platinum Member on Jul. 2, 2013 at 4:27 PM

No, both or none. However, I'd have different sets of rules for them both until the not so trustworthy one could prove we can trust her again.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Jul. 2, 2013 at 4:29 PM
Of course. Why should they have the same rules just because they're twins. If one can't get her act together that is her problem, not her sisters.
Lizardannie1966
by on Jul. 2, 2013 at 4:31 PM

Yes and to give both an equal shot at showing that they either can continue to be trustworthy, responsible and mature or learn to be.

In other words, make stipulations to the rebellious teen that if she is found to not be trustworthy, responsible or mature, she will no longer date.

Have her earn the luxury.

MomToDarienne
by Silver Member on Jul. 2, 2013 at 4:32 PM

No..

Anonymous
by Anonymous 3 on Jul. 2, 2013 at 4:34 PM

Yes, I would let one date and not the other. I don't punish them all together, why would I give them all the same reward. And yes, I think dating is more or less a reward for good behavior.

Jade_Lufercus
by on Jul. 2, 2013 at 4:39 PM

Yes. Why should one child have to pay for the mistakes of the other?

If they were younger would you put one in time-out for the behavior of the other?

Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Jul. 2, 2013 at 10:10 PM

Bump

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