If your kid is at my house they will be pretty much treated like my own
They can clear their dishes from a meal.
They can help clean a mess they made.
If they are too rowdy I will tell them to calm down.
If they hurt someone they need to apologize
If they stay the night I will tuck them in and read a story.
If they get hurt I will treat the injury, dry tears, and give a hug.
A neighbor left her ten year old with me and is mad I told him if he didn't want the chicken Parmesan he was welcome to make a sandwich.
And when he drop kicked my daughter and I made him sit with me for ten minutes. I was apparently out of line.
And I shouldn't be making him clean my house. Even though he is the one who dumped every Lego we have.
Told her he doesn't need to come over then. I had him from 7 AM until 2 AM. She was with her sister who was having a baby. I was happy to watch him and with the exception of a few minor incidents all went well