Something to think about for those of you who 'just know'......
A friend of mine has a 16yr old daughter. Her daughter is a beauty, very intelligent, cheerleader, honor student, volunteers with the special needs kids in her school, and is liked by almost everyone.
My friend 'just knew' her daughter wasn't having sex. They have an extremely open relationship and talk about everything. My friend has talked to her DD about sex since she was 12.
I would always say "you never truly know" and she would insist(like so many moms on here) that she knew without a doubt that her DD wasn't having sex, she didn't have the time, opportunity, and if she were she would know about it.
Well, this past weekend her DD confided in me that she was in fact sexually active. She has a boyfriend(mom knows about this)and they have had sex several times. I talked to her for a long time about sex, the consequences(not only physical but the emotional side too) and made sure they were using protection. She assured me that they had used condoms and she had just been to health department and gotten her bc.
Her mother still doesn't know she is sexually active. And I don't feel it is my place to tell her. She confided in me, she is being safe about it, and I know how betrayed I would have felt if her mother(who is the one I told the first time I had sex) would have gone to my mother and told her.
So, this just goes to show you. You can say it all you want to make yourself feel better, but you truly never 'know' that your teen isn't sexually active.