My exhusband lives in VA and I live in OH. Our current custody agreement was filed and approved in HI. As it stands, I have full physical custody and we share joint legal custody. However, our DD lives with me during the school year and my ex gets the whole summer, all school breaks over 5 days, and every other Christmas break. His family lives less than 40 minutes from my house so I also let him visit with our DD every time he comes up to visit, which is often. Our DD's physical address has always been with me and she has never, ever lived full-time with him except for 1 yr when she was very little when we were all living together trying to make the marriage work (it didn't).
However, earlier in June, he called me and started screaming at me because our DD hadn't had a physical since 2010. She's 8yrs old and her next scheduled physical isn't supposed to be until this school year. I explained this to him and he told me that I was a bad mom, horrible person, etc. etc. and that he wanted our DD to live with him for the school year and with me for the summer. In other words, he wanted to keep our current arrangement but with me having summer vacations and him having the school year. Why? I have no idea other than the fact that he wants it and he says that our DD wants it too. I don't want her to live with him during the school year. She has friends here, she is settled in her school, and she is in the Gifted and Talented program. She also has perfect attendence. What are the chances that a judge would give him custody? I have two other children and she has lived with them since they were born and with me and my husband full-time since she was two.
I don't like the current arrangement because I only get her during the school year and for 1 Christmas break every other year. We have never been on a family vacation because my ex has her for every school break and often comes up on 4 day weekends and I allow our DD to see him. I want to keep a good relationship between DD and my ex but I feel like I am getting short-changed because she is only with me when she has school. I want her to be here for at least 1 week of Christmas vacation every year AND I want her for the school year and at least a month of summer vacation. Is this reasonable?