I am writing to thank you, the mothers of our three adopted children (if you happen to be reading this). This is the 40th anniversary of the Roe v. Wade Supreme Court decision. I want to thank you from the bottom of my heart for giving your child a chance at life and for giving a childless family a chance to have children. You went against the strongest cultural pressures to see your pregnancy to full term, and the even stronger pressure by putting your child up for adoption when you knew that you couldn’t give him or her the best chance at life. Ellen and I are eternally thankful for the blessings you gave us.
Abortion, when I think about it, horrifies me – the millions of unborn babies who were killed in the past 40 years – that these were innocent children who could not speak for themselves – the countless numbers of women who carry with them terrible hurt and guilt of having succumbed to Planned Parenthood’s push to terminate their pregnancies. What does it say about about the civility of our nation, and about Anglican Christians who promise at our baptism to “respect the dignity of every human being?” I learned today that, 40 years after abortions were made legal, roughly half of the pregnancies in the U.S are unplanned, and of those: 4 in 10 are still aborted.
But, instead of being angry and feeling compelled to demonstrate my anger and grief at the terrible injustice of 40 years of killings, I don’t feel that today. I am thankful to three gutsy and strong women who have blessed our family at great personal cost. If you are reading this I want you to know that you are not forgotten. We were not even close to being the perfect family and our children are not perfect either. But we have struggled together and we are very proud of what they have done so far in their lives. Noel is in seminary studying for the ministry, Alison is a great mom to our wonderful five-year-old grandson, and Andrew is playing professional soccer in Nepal with the sponsorship of a Christian organization. (And, not to leave her out, our “surprise” birth-child, Hope, is a fabulous mom to our second grandson, a seven-month-old handsome boy.)
On this infamous anniversary when people are demonstrating on both sides, when those who have had abortions are mindful of their decisions and perhaps are in pain and grief, when you might be wondering if you did the right thing, please know that two parents in Texas are overwhelmed with gratitude for the love you showed your children and us. Ellen and I are