I need to vent I'm so upset with myself!!! How can I start disliking my own child? He drives me absolutely nuts!!! He pees on the seat doesn't clean it up, he cries that my 8 yr old son (he is about to turn 9) won't play with him (and I have a 21 month old) who he dont want to play with. He cries anytime the his lil brother bugs him, he wants to hang on me all the time, he screams at everyone instead of talking, he just started kicking his brother softly in the groin. I'm ready to ship him to his grandmas 2400 miles away.
This is what I have done for discipline
Spanking, taking ds away for a month, taking Pokemon cards away for a month, no tv for a month, time out for (5min bcz of his age an it always turns into 3-4 he time outs) nothing works we go no where we see no one. So what's left. He doesn't have alot of toys an all the boys share toys so its not like he has his own just the ds and cards are his own.
Did I mention I'm preg with my 4th son die in 4 weeks? I'm gettin fixed after this one.
I think i need to mention that it wasnt just him getting the pokemon cards takin away for a month. his was his older brother too. this was due to them constantly fighting over them, and then when i took them away and told them they could have it back in 2 days they argued with me and said no give it back so i made it 3 days then it continued its your fault no its your fault blah blah blah and they wanted to keep telling me when they would get them back so i said fine 1 month end of story. they knew after the 1 month y they were takin away bcz when the day came to give them back i asked do you remember y i took them away and they both said yes and told me what i said. so they understand. now they dont fight over them
now as far as 1 on 1 goes. we moved across country almost 1 yr ago. west coast central cali to midwest. all the boys had lots of 1 on 1 when we were in cali bcz we could afford it and had the time. now we have no money and are all together 24/7. i dont even have my alone time to relax unless you consider cleaning up messes relaxing which i dont.
i have issues just like everyone else in america. some people are better at somethings than others. and apparently according to most of you i'm not so good at parenting. thats y this post was annynomous i knew there would be bashing bcz thats what cafe moms do best is bash.
i also need to add a PS i cant just cuddle with one they all get jealous. i need time where the others are not home. i cant even kiss my husband in front of the boys they ALL freak out and want kisses! no joke! and right now i dont cuddle with anyone I cant even get comfy to sit down or stand! i dont want to be touched by anyone! uggg...pregnancy! glad this is my last!!!
in tears now thanks to all who bash me for bad parenting. i knew i shouldnt have posted this but since i dont have anyone to talk to i thought i could handle all the bashers. but i guess not. dont be suprised if you see this post gone soon. i'm just at a loss now.