I posted a while ago about my husband being on swingers and singles sites while I was out of town. I didn't mention anything to him because I wanted to snoop in his phone (an old flip phone with a shitty browser)
I snagged it tonight because I couldn't take it anymore, always second guessing if he's really going where he says he is.
I looked at his browser history, and sure enough, there were searches for XXXXX (our town's name) fuck partners, and sites like yourbedormine.
Idk what to do. No evidence of actual cheating, but what the actual fuck?? Obviously, he wants to. How do you confront someone about something like this??
Update: in a few minutes, I will be talking to him about this. He is feeding the animals and coming back. I'm trying to get up the courage and plan my words, but all I feel is a pit in my stomach and my heart is racing. Wish me luck? I will update in a bit.
Update 2: I talked to him. He denied wanting to be with anyone else. He lied about the fuck partners search, and said he clicked on a popup on a swingers site. I had mentioned a swinger's club in ohio that I read about several months ago, and he thought I was interested in the lifestyle so he started checking out the sites. I called him on his lie about the local fuck partners search, and toldhim I knew and had proof he, himself, typed those words into a search bar. I told him I wasn't interested in having a conversation if he wasn't going to be open and honest with me. I ended the conversation by telling him that if he wants to have sex with someone else, he is free to do so as long as he is honest with me about it, and as long as he uses protection. He swore up and down he has never touched another woman since we started dating, and would never want anyone else, ever. He is upset because I do not believe him one bit. He apologized and acknowledged screwing up.