So, dh and I have been together for 18 years. When we first started having sex I was very nervous and shy. And honestly I couldn't orgasim. Of course that changed. But dh doesn't take care of me before he has an orgasim. If it happens- great! If not- I'm shit out of luck. I have told him many times that I am not satisfied 99% of the time. He says it will be better next time. Yeah, right! So I am just curious if its lot of men or what?