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My kids are locked in their room at night

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Yup you read that right. My five year old ds is an escape artist. It got to the point that we got a call from the police in tje middle of the night because he was wandering the streets. We put locks on all doors leading to the outside but then he started raiding the kitchen at night. We tried the alarms for the doors but he would open and close them really fast and it would wake us up. He also thought it was funny to set them off and then go lay back in bed until the whole house was awake. So we put the chain lock on the door. He shares a room with his 10 year old brother so before bed his brother locks it. My ds is not tall enough to reach. There is a bathroom that connects the two rooms so we put one on our door also. Now he does not sneak out and get in trouble. 

Posted by Anonymous on Jul. 5, 2013 at 9:44 AM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Jul. 7, 2013 at 8:37 AM

This is so stupid. What is the difference between putting it on the front door and on his door? Either way he can't get out right? It would be just as much if not MORE of a fire hazard on the front door because we wouldnt be right there to open it and my 5yo can be wandering all over the house. 

Quoting leota29:

I have those on all doors leading outside. Not on the bedroom doors. If it keeps them in their room then it will also keep them in the house. Just like op..... really a chain lock in the bedroom keeps him from getting outside??? Uh then put one on the front door instead. Sounds more like people just wanting to keep their kids in their room and not just about keeping them safely in the house.

Quoting ATG499:

Technically, my four year old gets locked in his room as well. I have a doorknob cover on the inside handle. I'd wake up and find him gone if I didn't have it on there.



Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Jul. 7, 2013 at 8:42 AM



Quoting JulyBabies:



Quoting Anonymous:

Until your kid has left your house unattended without your knowledge in the night time, you have no idea how terrifying it is, and you have no room to judge! Stuff beyond our control happens all the time. A kid is less likely to get killed or injured in his own home or bedroom than if he's roaming the street by himself at night. A parents job is to keep their child safe. Do what you have to do.

Quoting JulyBabies:




Quoting Anonymous:

They can easily get out and unless the fire was in the bathroom we could easily get to them



Quoting JulyBabies:

God help your children if there is a fire; you aren't easily getting in nor are they easily getting out




What about carbon monoxide poisoning and people pass out or an intruder in the house? So many things can go wrong and your kids have limited escape options. I am sure you will have excuses as to why this won't happen or be the case but all it takes is a second. Unless your kid is sleepwalking, at 5 yrs. old there should be other options.





A parents job is to....parent. Barricading a kid in their room is not parenting. My opinion might change if we were dealing with a sleepwalker or special needs child but from what I have read, that is not the case. It's a child that is old enough to know better and a parent that can't seem to get him under control.

I can't believe how many parents are in support of this.



I did try to parent and do everything else before it came to this. But when my sons life was in danger I knew I needed to do something more drastic. We tried to get an alarm for the whole house guess what happened? He opened the door, the alarm went off, I ran downstairs but he had already darted outside. It took us a half an hour to find him because he was hiding and it was pitch black. The police officer suggested the lock on the door when they brought him home and I thought that was crazy but you know what? It is the only thing that has worked. My son DOES know what he is doing is wrong. We are trying to get our insurance to approve him to see a specialist. There is some underlying condition. This is not something a child should be doing. 

What do you suggest I do to get him under control? I will give you a list of things i can think of off of the top of my head that we have already done; taking away every single thing he owns, time outs, alarms on his door, sleeping in the same room as him, sleeping in the same bed as him, positive reenforcement/reward when he doesn't do it, and even spanking. 

Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Jul. 7, 2013 at 8:43 AM


Well the lock is on the INSIDE of the door. My ds 10 can reach it plus I can be there within seconds because our rooms are connected 

Quoting Anonymous:

What happens when there is a fire and he cannot get out? Oh, I think locks on the outside of doors where people cannot escape are illegal, you may want to look into that.



Anonymous
by Anonymous 30 on Jul. 7, 2013 at 9:26 AM

backing away now before you sound weven more dumb

Quoting Anonymous:

Baby gates are designed as a safety measure with supervison not as a prison gate.

Quoting Anonymous:

 

So if you put a baby gate up you are lazy? What if that child can climb the gate but is still in the mind frame of an infant?Have you EVER delt with anything like that?

Quoting Anonymous:

Because you actually parenting your child is solved by ignoring the problem. Get off your lazy ass and figure out the problem stay up and see what's going on. Your child is more important than a few sleepless night and creating a fire hazard. If your so close you can protect them from a fire in the middle of the night you should be close enough not to lock him in his room.

Quoting Anonymous:

I am far from lazy. I tried everything else I could think of but when his life was in danger I realizes I needed something more drastic. Why would I leave him screaming.?




Quoting Anonymous:

The solution is the easy one for you. Locking your child in his room is lazy parenting. Would you leave your kid screaming or take care of him? Its the same thing just a different problem.





Quoting Anonymous:

 

He is in a lot more danger with no lock. The police siggested this. It is working




Quoting faire_jour:

You are making excuses for putting your child in danger.

 




Quoting Anonymous:

 

I am less than 10 feet away. My son knows how to stay calm. We do regular fire drills even before the lock. 




Quoting faire_jour:

If there is a fire they need to be able to get out on their own. Heaven forbid it happens, but what it the three of you are incapacitated and he dies because you have locked him in? Each person in an emergency needs to be able to save themselves.

 




Quoting Anonymous:

 

How? Plus unless the fire was in the bathroom we could get to them




Quoting faire_jour:

And if there is a fire, they get to die.

 




 

 




 

 




 

 




 

 




 


 

 



 

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