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My kids are locked in their room at night

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Yup you read that right. My five year old ds is an escape artist. It got to the point that we got a call from the police in tje middle of the night because he was wandering the streets. We put locks on all doors leading to the outside but then he started raiding the kitchen at night. We tried the alarms for the doors but he would open and close them really fast and it would wake us up. He also thought it was funny to set them off and then go lay back in bed until the whole house was awake. So we put the chain lock on the door. He shares a room with his 10 year old brother so before bed his brother locks it. My ds is not tall enough to reach. There is a bathroom that connects the two rooms so we put one on our door also. Now he does not sneak out and get in trouble. 

Posted by Anonymous on Jul. 5, 2013 at 9:44 AM
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faire_jour
by Platinum Member on Jul. 5, 2013 at 10:59 AM
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If there is a fire they need to be able to get out on their own. Heaven forbid it happens, but what it the three of you are incapacitated and he dies because you have locked him in? Each person in an emergency needs to be able to save themselves.


Quoting Anonymous:


How? Plus unless the fire was in the bathroom we could get to them

Quoting faire_jour:

And if there is a fire, they get to die.





Aslen
by Ruby Member on Jul. 5, 2013 at 11:00 AM
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 it's illegal here to lock a child in a bedroom.

HUGE fire hazard, and if you think a scared panicked 10 year old will be able to unlock a door in an emergency, you're deluding yourself


Quoting Anonymous:

 

It is not illegal. How is that a fail? My kids are actually safe now

Quoting Aslen:

yeah in most places that's illegal.

So much fail....

 

 


 

Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Jul. 5, 2013 at 11:00 AM


They are not useless and out whole house is wired together so it would be impossible to sleep through. I tried keeping him in our room, he snuck out. The police are what suggested this. As long as the lock is on the inside of the door they say it is fine. There is no difference between just having a lock on the door handle and a chain lock as long as one person can unlock it

Quoting acrogodess:

Fire alarms are useless in the middle of the night. Many people sleep right through them. Like I said, I understand you want to keep him indoors from wandering the streets. I would have him room sharing before I would lock him in his own room. Your kid though. What state are you in though? Check state laws before cps gets involved.

Quoting Anonymous:


We have smoke/fire detectors. They would go of before that plus unless the fire is in the bathroom we would be right there. 


Quoting acrogodess:

Because the smoke can knock them unconscious and then the 10 yr old can't unlatch the lock. Seriously? Did you never have fire safety lessons? I learned that when I was a child.



Quoting Anonymous:


How is it a fire hazard?



Quoting acrogodess:

That is such a fire hazard, but I can understand you just want to keep him in and safe. :-(










Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Jul. 5, 2013 at 11:02 AM


Yes he could. We actually had a fire scare and he was able to unlock the door and did our routine. I was standing there with him but he was fine.Turns out one of the fire detectors was low on batteries. It would be illegal if it was on the outside of the door here.

Quoting Aslen:

 it's illegal here to lock a child in a bedroom.

HUGE fire hazard, and if you think a scared panicked 10 year old will be able to unlock a door in an emergency, you're deluding yourself


Quoting Anonymous:


It is not illegal. How is that a fail? My kids are actually safe now

Quoting Aslen:

yeah in most places that's illegal.

So much fail....







Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Jul. 5, 2013 at 11:03 AM


I am less than 10 feet away. My son knows how to stay calm. We do regular fire drills even before the lock. 

Quoting faire_jour:

If there is a fire they need to be able to get out on their own. Heaven forbid it happens, but what it the three of you are incapacitated and he dies because you have locked him in? Each person in an emergency needs to be able to save themselves.


Quoting Anonymous:


How? Plus unless the fire was in the bathroom we could get to them

Quoting faire_jour:

And if there is a fire, they get to die.







TheMommysLife
by on Jul. 5, 2013 at 11:03 AM
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Quoting acrogodess:

Because the smoke can knock them unconscious and then the 10 yr old can't unlatch the lock. Seriously? Did you never have fire safety lessons? I learned that when I was a child.

Quoting Anonymous:

 

How is it a fire hazard?


Quoting acrogodess:

That is such a fire hazard, but I can understand you just want to keep him in and safe. :-(

 


 

I'm pretty sure if the smoke knocked out the 10 year old, then the 5 year old would be knocked out too.

Aslen
by Ruby Member on Jul. 5, 2013 at 11:06 AM

 

DUH!

But her kids won't EVER have that happen to them

Quoting TheMommysLife:

Quoting acrogodess:

Because the smoke can knock them unconscious and then the 10 yr old can't unlatch the lock. Seriously? Did you never have fire safety lessons? I learned that when I was a child.

Quoting Anonymous:

 

How is it a fire hazard?


Quoting acrogodess:

That is such a fire hazard, but I can understand you just want to keep him in and safe. :-(

 


 

I'm pretty sure if the smoke knocked out the 10 year old, then the 5 year old would be knocked out too.


 

Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Jul. 5, 2013 at 11:07 AM


Not with my system. I cant even light an incense or a candle in my house without the alarm go off. It is annoying but i know it works

Quoting Aslen:


DUH!

But her kids won't EVER have that happen to them

Quoting TheMommysLife:

Quoting acrogodess:

Because the smoke can knock them unconscious and then the 10 yr old can't unlatch the lock. Seriously? Did you never have fire safety lessons? I learned that when I was a child.

Quoting Anonymous:


How is it a fire hazard?


Quoting acrogodess:

That is such a fire hazard, but I can understand you just want to keep him in and safe. :-(




I'm pretty sure if the smoke knocked out the 10 year old, then the 5 year old would be knocked out too.





HeatherGandJ
by Bronze Member on Jul. 5, 2013 at 11:13 AM

Have you taken him to a a behavioral specialist?  That type of dangerous behavior can indicate an underlying problem, which may have biological roots, so be somewhat OUT of his control.  Definitely do what you can to keep him safe, and with his older brother there to assist, locks are not as dangerous.  But I woulddefinitely talk to your pediatrician about being referred to a specialist, just to rule out an underlying issue.

SpiritedWitch
by Froggie on Jul. 5, 2013 at 11:13 AM

You do what you have to do. 

We had to use door alarms on my son's room as well as lock every other damn door in the house. the outside doors had double key deadbolts and we had the keys with us at all times. 

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