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Apparently it's inappropriate to teach my daughter how to.....

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To count.

My daughter is 15 months old.

We were counting with her stacking cups as she was stacking them.

We would get to five. She'd knock them over. Giggle. And we would restart.

I got my phone out and recorded her counting with me.

After she knocked them over and giggled she restarted, and stacked three while counting "one............twooooooooook...........fweeeeee" then looked at me to say four and five while she stacked and held her fingers )she can't say four and five yet, but she can show on her fingers).

Sil called the house phone. I ended the video and answered the phone.

She asked what were doing and I said "I was just helping dd count and making a video of her to show my dh"

She says "you've been teaching her to count".

And I said "well not really. I always count her snacks out for her. And she started showing me 1-3 on her fingers so today I started counting cups with her"

Sil goes on to say that at 15 months she is not at an appropriate age for us to be teaching her to count. And that shoving education down her isn't going to make her enjoy, it will make her hate it And then she won't want to learn.


Wtf?

First off, I wasn't aware that there was a specific age to you had to reach before your parents could start teaching you numbers.

Second, she was having fun counting and stacking cups with me!

What the hell???



Eta- she has one child, he is 7 months old.
Posted by Anonymous on Jul. 5, 2013 at 5:59 PM
Replies (21-30):
twade26
by on Jul. 5, 2013 at 6:06 PM

You SIL is a dumbass.

supercarp
by on Jul. 5, 2013 at 6:06 PM

Your SIL is an idiot

Sekirei
by LoKitty on Jul. 5, 2013 at 6:07 PM

Ask her if the stupid burns.. lol

I attempted to teach my son to count at that age. But we didn't know that  he was having a problem hearing at that point.

idee
by Silver Member on Jul. 5, 2013 at 6:08 PM

 I think your sil is a doofus!

fivegirls333
by on Jul. 5, 2013 at 6:09 PM

i call bullshit.  there is way more to the story and i bet sil would not tell it that way.  it sounds like something you "do" and she was just calling you on it.  there is a reason children learn certain things at a certain age.  i don't believe it was just casual play and she just happen to count like that and you just "happen" to have a cam-recorder.  it sounds like your family is trying to reel you in  and you are not getting their "subtle" messages.

ruth85
by on Jul. 5, 2013 at 6:10 PM

That is the most bizarre thing I have ever heard.  I am guessing it is stemming from some kind of insecurity...like perhaps her kids are not at that point and she feels intimidated and is trying to make herself feel better somehow. 

There is absolutely nothing wrong with having fun with kids that age and teaching things at the same time.  I did the same kind of thing with my daughter when she was that age....and when she was 4 or 5 I taught her multiplication and division using fruit loops.  ( 2 bunches of  2 fruit loops each makes how many? etc) and then we would eat the results.  Something she still remembers, and she is now 22.  She knew her multiplication tables up to 7 by first grade cause on the walk home we had a little song that we did.

And, btw....she was at the top of her high school class, a National Merit Finalist, and graduated with multiple honors from college with a 3.9.  And she loves learning so much, she is going to start her first job this fall as a teacher.

There is nothing wrong with teaching your kid and making it fun.  As long as it is a game or fun and they are not stressed by it, more power to you.

ColleenF30
by Lube Girl on Jul. 5, 2013 at 6:12 PM

She sounds jealous to me.

Ber-Lynn
by Count Me In on Jul. 5, 2013 at 6:12 PM
My daughter turned 3 in May. She counts to 20 by herself and 30 with help. My daughter loves to learn I don't force her LOL. If a child shows and intrest there is nothing wrong with it. My daughter knows tons of animals and the sounds they make. She knows her ABC's yet that took a while.
ProudMommaBear
by on Jul. 5, 2013 at 6:15 PM

hell my dd's 6mo and I have a lil kids book , one of those soft plush ones, it has shapes in it ands she gets SO excited when I read/show her all the shapes. My godsons been knowing colors, shapes, animals, numbers, names, etc. since he was that age, he's almost three now and is so smart ! He loves learning!  My aunt doesn't even teach him some of the stuff he knows, like they have a giant encyclopedia type book of animals, one day on the tv he pointed out an animal that my aunt had never even mentioned before, she asked where he learned that and he pointed to the book. 

dmarie2101
by Ruby Member on Jul. 5, 2013 at 6:16 PM

LOL.

counting with children is usually something parent "do"...what is the reason they should be on a learning schedule?

children learn through play constantly. its the main way they learn things.

she said she got her phone...most phones have a camera/recorder on them. geez. do you still have a nokia with snake on it?

theres nothing wrong with what she was doing. you sound crazy and ridiculous. if your kid says a new word before youve scheduled it, do you grab a book and say "you cant know that yet"? Christ.

Quoting fivegirls333:

i call bullshit.  there is way more to the story and i bet sil would not tell it that way.  it sounds like something you "do" and she was just calling you on it.  there is a reason children learn certain things at a certain age.  i don't believe it was just casual play and she just happen to count like that and you just "happen" to have a cam-recorder.  it sounds like your family is trying to reel you in  and you are not getting their "subtle" messages.


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